Sweat Your Way to Better Sex! – Your Guide to the Orgasmic Power of Kegels

KegelIn the words of Queen Britney, You better work, b*tch! When you’re getting your sweat on, don’t forget the most important muscles of all – the ones in your vajayjay (and we’re pretty sure Ms. Spears would agree).

Kegel exercises are as trendy as rose gold jewelry and hot yoga classes, and for good reason. This simple pelvic floor workout of squeezing and releasing your PC muscles is the key to more intense orgasms, better sex, and a healthier vagina. Doing daily kegels can even help you bounce back from pregnancy or control those little squirts of pee that sneak out when you laugh or sneeze, better known as incontinence.

Kegel repetitions work to tighten the muscles of the pelvic floor and vaginal walls. Though science has long busted the myth that lots of amazing sex or multiple partners will forever leave you loose, the pelvic muscles can lose their tone and strength over time, just like the rest of your body when you cheat on your fitness routine for too long. If you’ve given birth, you’ll also notice a change in the tightness of your vaginal muscles.

All this stuff is totally normal, but your health and pleasure depend on physical fitness to keep your insides in tip-top shape. When those downstairs muscles are properly primed, you’ll enjoy stronger orgasms and more internal pleasure during penetration.

Adding some Kegels to your repertoire is like eating a whole box of chocolate-covered cherries after your regular workout (except orgasms are way better for your body than processed sugars).

Let’s get you started with an easy-peasy Kegel routine, some goodies to spice up your workout, and a little orgasmic game to throw in for motivation.

How the Heck Does a Kegel Work?

You can do a Kegel from wherever you’re sitting or laying down, and that’s what makes them pretty much awesome. Simply clench your vaginal muscles together, kind of like when you’re holding in a fart (yes, really, that’s it!). You’ll feel your butt cheeks and thighs clench up at the same time. To check that you’re doing it right, use those same muscles to stop the flow of urine the next time you’re on the toilet. If the stream stops, you’re doing it right.

Now clench and hold, and see how long you can keep those muscles flexed. Ideally, aim for 5-10 seconds clenched, and then release. Congrats! You’ve done your first Kegel.

Ready, Get Set, Vagina Reps!

Keeping up with your Kegels is no different from any other fitness routine. You’ve got to stick with it on the daily, but thankfully you don’t have to hit the gym. You can do the ol’ squeeze-and-release while sitting at the office, watching a movie, or anywhere that allows you some down time to yourself.

For beginners, start by clenching for 5 seconds, relaxing for 5 seconds, and then repeating this pattern 10 times in sets of 3. Work your way up to clenching for 10 seconds and then relaxing for 10, also aiming for 3 sets of 10 reps.

Twist It Up With Some “Exercise Equipment”

You’ll eventually want to add some resistance to move up to the next level, or maybe you could use a little coaching to get it right. There are all sorts of sexy workout toys to guide your routine or add some light weights to build that kitty into a fierce, dildo-crushing jaguar. (Ok, we’re kidding, you probably won’t crush your sex toy, but your partner will definitely feel the difference.)

Bloom by We-Wibe

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We-Vibe’s luxurious Bloom is for the Kegel-ciser who wants it all. Bloom’s smart phone app guides you through your workout like a mini personal trainer. You can even swap out the weights to match your endurance level. Those 10 rumbly vibrations keep you motivated and on track for success.

 

Pussy Playballs Kegel Training Set by Rianne S

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Take your Kegel toys on the go with this ultra girly kit from fashion-forward brand Rianne S. The Pussy Playballs are basic Kegel weights disguised as adorable accessories in their coral-pink cosmetic bag. Each of the 4 balls adds on a little more weight, making it easy to step up your workout anytime.

 

Body & Soul Entice Kegel Balls

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These easy-to-remove Kegel balls keep it super basic, and they’re perfect for beginners on a budget. The stretchy silicone string and smooth, polished plastic balls help you figure out just how to wrap your v-muscles around their first workout toy.

 

Fantasy for Her Remote Kegel Exercise-Her

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If the duo-ball shape doesn’t do it for you, these Fantasy for Her Kegel balls are designed like a tear drop and made just as much for orgasms as exercise. Ten vibration modes take you through a whirlwind workout routine, which we’re pretty sure is going to wind up going south into climax land pretty quickly. You can even use this versatile piece of strength training equipment as an external bullet vibe.

 

Kegel Your Way to an Orgasmic Workout

Once you’ve gotten the kick of Kegel-ing, now comes the fun and games. You can combine your self-pleasure sessions with your daily down-there workout to add in a little reward – orgasms!

Choose a Kegel toy that vibrates as you squeeze, and as you go about your reps, notice how the vibrations ripple through your sacred space. Feel those heavenly vibes stimulate your g-spot and rumble up through your clitoris as you clench. Move your mindset from weightlifting champ to masturbation mode, and enjoy the subtle sensations of the toy as it rocks inside you.

Once you’ve gotten through your usual round of reps, you’ll be all worked up and ready to reach the finish line. Keep going with a few more reps of clench-and-release (or start your Kegel-ciser’s program from the beginning), but this time, slowly massage your clitoris as the Kegel toy’s vibrations bring you to the brink. Hold off for as long as you can, savoring the uniquely subtle pleasure of this deliciously gentle yet deep self-love technique.

When you’re ready, let yourself climax as the Kegel toy gushes forth another 10 second rep of vibration. In this tuned-in state, you’ll feel every last wave as your orgasm matches the toy’s burst of vibes.

Now who said working out has to suck?


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Kinkly’s 5 Tips for Finding That Elusive ‘Nipplegasm’

 

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Photo credit: Kinkly

Takeaway: Nipplegasms aren’t common, but even if you don’t make it all the way to O-town, playing with them can still be a lot of fun.

 

I’m sure you’ve heard of the elusive nipplegasm: the idea that a person can orgasm just from stimulation of the nipples. Not limited to a single gender, nipplegasms can be experienced by anyone with sensitive nipple tissue. Nipplegasms aren’t common, but even if you don’t make it all the way to O-town, playing with them can still be a lot of fun.

Some people find that nipple stimulation with the hands is enough stimulation for orgasm. If that’s you, that’s great! However, you wouldn’t be here if the idea of nipple toys didn’t appeal to you. Even if you’ve been unable to experience a nipplegasm before, you might want to see if sex toys can help make the experience hotter. Not only can some of these toys increase the sensitivity of the nipples, but they can provide hands-free stimulation of the nipples while you choose to focus on other areas. Here are some tips on how to zero-in on that elusive nipple orgasm.

Nipple Pumps

Suction feels fabulous on other sensitive areas, so why not try the nipples? Nipple pumps are pumping toys that can be used to create this sensation. With a hollow chamber pressed firmly onto the nipples, the suction pump is used to remove air from the chamber – which provides suction onto the nipples and helps engorge the nipple with blood. Much like the penis, a fully erect and fully engorged nipple tends to be more sensitive to any type of stimulation you want to give it.

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These vacuum nipple suckers are simple, inexpensive and can be sensational fun. Get them at Indigo Honey.

 

Read the rest of 5 Tips for Finding That Elusive ‘Nipplegasm’ at Kinkly.com 


 

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Think Pink: Your Vibrator Purchase Benefits Living Beyond Breast Cancer

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Inspire is a collection of thoughtfully designed products aimed at improving the lives of women on their journey for heightened sexual experiences.

A portion of proceeds from Inspire products always benefits Living Beyond Breast Cancer (LBBC), a non-profit that provides programs and services to those affected by breast cancer. In honor of breast cancer awareness month, the manufacturer of the line, CalExotics, is doubling their regular donation! Double the proceeds from each sale of Inspire will go to LBBC to continue the fight and help women take control of their sexual health.

Here are some of the Inspire items we here at IndigoHoney.com love the most. Like all of our powered items, they are all rechargeable, waterproof, and backed by a manufacturer’s warranty:


 

Inspire Flickering Intimate Arouser
Inspire Flickering Intimate Arouser

This oscillating arouser was designed to enhance intimate sensitivity, and offers 10 functions of vibration, pulsation and escalation. The ergonomically curved handle ends in a silky silicone cup that houses a soft flickering tongue-like tip for incredible sensations and full-contact arousal.

Inspire Vibrating G-Wand Bendable Massager
Inspire Vibrating G-Wand Bendable Massager

The Vibrating G-Wand offers a bulbous tip to strengthen the pelvic floor, and 10 functions of vibration, pulsation and escalation to help increase circulation and blood flow. The shaft flexes and bends for multi-directional positioning, making sure that you’ll always hit the right spot.

Inspire Vibrating Ultimate Wand
Inspire Vibrating Ultimate Wand

The Ultimate Wand is a vibrating massager you can use to increase circulation and decrease muscle pain anywhere on the body, as well as an intimately sensual personal stimulator. Dressed in premium silicone, it offers 10 functions of vibration, pulsation and escalation.

Inspire Silicone Dilator Kit
Inspire Silicone Dilator Kit

Dilator therapy is an at-home treatment known to restore and revive vaginal strength and comfort by gradually allowing the user to comfortably reduce pelvic floor muscle tension by training those muscles to relax. The Inspire Dilator Kit contains a range of different sized dilators to allow for appropriate size and progression of treatment over time at your own pace.


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The Horrifying Day I Learned Vaginas Can Seal SHUT From Lack Of Use

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Vaginal atrophy: It’s a real thing.

I used to really love sex. Like, there was a point in my life (my early to mid-twenties) when I was pretty convinced regular sex was one of the only good reasons to be in a relationship. It’s never been a secret and my sex drive has never been an issue.

But that was then.

Don’t get me wrong, I still have a high sex drive. But I also have a toddler, and I work from home. I can’t remember the last time I met a man I was even mildly interested in, which is why I somehow went from being a girl who loved sex to one who’s spent the last four years mostly abstinent.

Even just typing that word makes me sad.

I guess life just got in the way of dating. And most of the time, I’m OK with that fact. Adopting my daughter was the best thing to ever happen to me. I’d rather spend Friday nights with her than out at a bar searching for my next boyfriend.

But the length of my dry spell has been the butt of plenty of jokes among my friends. (Because apparently it’s hilarious to make fun of the girl who no longer remembers what a penis looks like.)

The running joke has been my vagina is going to seal up from lack of use. And maybe something about cobwebs, because my friends are assh*les.

Mostly, I brush these jokes off. Or I join in on them, recognizing that the lack of sex (or even just the lack of chemistry) in my life right now is kind of depressing. If I don’t laugh about it, I might cry.

But that’s all it’s been — a joke. Obviously, all the equipment will still work just fine, sans cobwebs, when I meet a man worth jumping into the sack with. Vaginas don’t actually seal shut, right?

That’s what I’ve been telling myself; that this is just a period of my life where I’m focused on other things; that the time will come when I meet someone I really like and can reconnect with that girl I once was; that I will have sex again someday. At least when the toddler is sleeping.

But then I got hired to write some health articles for a website dedicated to menopause. This wasn’t all that atypical a job for me. I’m kind of a layman expert (if there’s such a thing) on women’s health, being mostly self-taught after years spent battling endometriosis. I ghostwrite for quite a few medical websites on various topics related to the vagina. This was just my first foray into menopause.

So, imagine my surprise when I started research for an article on “Vaginal Atrophy.” Never heard of this term? That’s OK, neither had I. But the gist is that when a woman is going through menopause, the lack of estrogen in her body can cause the vaginal tissues to thin out and the vaginal walls to inflame.

Over time, the muscles will actually atrophy and cease working as they should. Continued sexual activity can reduce the decline, keeping those muscles engaged and active. But if you aren’t having sex when this is going on, sex in the future can become very uncomfortable, at best, and nearly impossible in some cases.

I sat at my computer, slack-jawed, reading story after story of women whose vaginas may not have sealed shut exactly, but became basically non-functional due to lack of activity during these low-estrogen periods. Because, that’s right, this doesn’t just happen during menopause— it can also happen while breastfeeding, or during any other point in your life when your estrogen levels or low.

Did I mention that I have endometriosis, an estrogen-dependent disease that has my doctors continually monitoring my hormone levels and trying to keep my estrogen low? Yeah…

I was having a girls’ night with friends a few days after my research, and I brought the topic up, wondering if they’d ever heard of this condition themselves.

“Oh yeah, vaginal atrophy,” one of my friends said. “I have a friend who’s a lesbian who has it. She can’t even get vaginal exams anymore.”

Apparently the vagina is a “use it or lose it” part of the female anatomy. Which, as a single mom who doesn’t have a whole lot of time (or even desire) to be using it right now, is a pretty horrific discovery to make.

All this time, I’ve been telling myself that when she’s older I’ll start dating again. Or when I get my business to the point where I don’t feel like I have to work every single day. Or when life just slows down a little.

But what if that day comes and my vagina really has sealed shut?

I’m not sure how long it takes for this whole atrophy thing to happen, though. I think I’m still good for now. But why aren’t more women talking about this? Why aren’t we made more aware that this is something that can actually happen?

I’m not sure how it changes anything. I mean, even knowing this information, I’m not feeling all that inclined to just jump the next man who shows interest. But if knowledge is power, consider me the woman who’s now spreading the word.

Vaginas actually can seal shut. This is a thing. So know your body, pay attention to the signs (drying up down there can be your first clue), and see a doctor if you’ve got concerns. Because even if you don’t want to use it today, you might still want to someday.

And while cobwebs probably aren’t a real concern, vaginal atrophy just might be.

Leah Campbell’s article was originally posted on Your Tango.


Indigo Honey Notes:

A preventative measure is to keep the blood flowing to the vulva and vaginal area. Vibrators are an effective (and fun!) way to accomplish this, and use of a vibe at least once a week can help a TON to increase circulation.

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