Best Toys and Techniques for Shower and Bath Masturbation

We all have the routine of showering or bathing daily, right? Why not make the most of that private, naked time by exploring a little water masturbation? Sometimes, the bathroom can be our sanctuary, the only place to lock the door and have some uninterrupted “me” time. Plus, let’s not forget how convenient it is for cleanup!

And here’s a fun fact: being in the shower with the water running can muffle any, uh, sounds you might make, adding an extra layer of privacy. So, why limit yourself to just the bed for your solo fun? Mixing it up with a toy in the bath or shower can spice things up and keep your solo sessions interesting.

If your usual routine is feeling a bit stale, water masturbation could be just the thing to shake things up. It’s like a little burst of dopamine for your body, giving you that feel-good boost. So go ahead, dive in, and explore all the possibilities! 

Get Wet and Stay Wet

If you’ve ever tried to get sexy in the water, you know it can sometimes feel like it’s washing away all of your natural lubrication, right? Well, fear not! You can be your hero by keeping some lube handy. Now, when it comes to any sort of play in the water, silicone-based lube is your best buddy. But here’s the catch: most toys aren’t compatible with silicone lube. Only materials like glass, metal, and plastic can play nicely with silicone lubricant. But don’t worry, there’s a creative solution! Enter the hybrid lube. It’s like the best of both worlds, mostly water-based, but with a dash of silicone to keep things slick without messing up your toys. Remember, the important thing here is to use something specifically designed as a lubricant. So, no reaching for the soap or shampoo bottles in a pinch! Planning and bringing your own lube into the bathroom ensures smooth sailing (or should I say swimming?) for your aquatic adventures! 

Shower Head For The Win

If you’ve never given your showerhead or bath faucet a chance in your solo play, now’s the perfect time to dive in! Seriously, head to your bathroom and give it a try. It’s how a lot of folks first dipped their toes into solo exploration, and let me tell you, there’s a good reason for that. The sensation of water spraying onto your erogenous zones can be downright amazing. Some people even say it feels like a gentle tongue doing its thing. The running water creates this unique blend of texture, temperature, pressure, and movement that’s, well, just something you have to experience for yourself.

Grab that showerhead and get creative! You can use it to stimulate your clitoris or the frenulum of the penis (that spot where the head meets the shaft). Or, position yourself under the faucet stream and let the water work its magic. It might take a little trial and error to find the perfect position for you, but trust me, it’s worth the effort. So go ahead, experiment, and see what feels amazing for you. There’s no one-size-fits-all approach here, so just keep playing around until you hit that sweet spot.

And hey, if you need a few pointers, I’m here to help:

• Hold the stream directly onto your erogenous spot (like the clit or frenulum)
• Move the showerhead in a circular motion, up and down, or side-to-side.
• Experiment with different positions and figure out what works best for you!

Ideal Suction Cup Location

The shower can be the ultimate playground for your suction cup toys! Tile surfaces are like a dream come true for these hands-free wonders. Have you ever tried sticking something onto a tile? It’s like magic! And most bathrooms are loaded with tile, so you’re already halfway there. You can even take your aquatic adventures to the next level and incorporate a tentacle dildo like the Creature Cocks Monstropus. Then you can enjoy each row of suckers on the girthy shaft.

Now, picture this: you’ve got your favorite suction cup toy in hand, and you’re faced with a choice – do you stick it to the shower wall or the side of the bathtub? It’s like choosing between chocolate and vanilla ice cream, both delicious options! So go ahead, take advantage of that sleek, tile surface and let your imagination run wild with all the possibilities! 

Good Vibes Only

When you’re trying to find the perfect vibe for your aquatic adventures you definitely want something waterproof, right? I mean, why limit your fun to just the bedroom when you can bring the party into the bath or shower? But something to keep in mind is that you also want something that’s easy to hold onto, especially when things get slippery. That’s where toys with longer or looped handles come into play. Think about it like choosing the perfect tool for the job!

Now, let’s talk specifics. Ever heard of the Satisfyer Pro 2, Maia Shroomy Vibe, or any of the Satisfyer Vibes with a handle? These bad boys not only have a solid grip but they’re also waterproof and offer a variety of functions to keep things interesting. And hey, if smaller vibes are more your style, finger vibes like the Mini Marvels Marvelous Tickler or Frisky Finger might be just what you need. They snugly fit onto your finger, ensuring you won’t accidentally drop them mid-fun.

But wait, there’s more! Ever tried the Wellness Palm Sense Vibe? It’s like the Swiss Army knife of vibes, fitting comfortably in the palm of your hand, with a finger fin to hold it so you can easily grip it, and able to wrap around any erogenous zone with ease. 

Now, if grinding is more your speed, say hello to the Lust Remote Control Dual Rider. Stick it to the side or bottom of the tub, hop on, and get ready for the ride of your life! With two motors and a subtle texture, it’s like having your own personal thrill ride right in your bathroom. 

Explore your Backdoor

Exploring the backdoor in the bath or shower is like your own private spa session for some extra self-discovery! Imagine you’re soaking in the tub or standing under the warm cascade of the shower, feeling relaxed and carefree. That’s the perfect moment to dive into some backdoor exploration, and what better way than with a classic teardrop-shaped rechargeable butt plug like the Sensuelle Power Plug or Satisfyer Plug-ilicious

The bath or shower is like the VIP lounge for backdoor exploration. You’re already in a state of relaxation, especially when you’re lounging in the tub. And here’s a pro tip for you: in the bath, you can easily lay on your side and lift one leg, giving you amazing access and making it super comfortable to try out new things. So go ahead, let the soothing waters be your guide as you embark on this journey of self-discovery! 

Rub-a-dub

In a nutshell, the bath or shower is like your ultimate playground for exploration! Not only do you get to bask in the pure relaxation of the whole experience, but let’s not forget the convenience factor when it comes to cleanup. I mean, who wants to stress about that stuff, right?

Now, the big question is: how are you going to take your bath or shower game to the next level? Whether it’s trying out new toys, experimenting with different sensations, or simply taking the time to pamper yourself, the possibilities are endless. So go ahead, dive in, and let the fun begin! 

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About the Author

Carly S. is the Queen of Wands, pleasure educator, porn star, model, blogger of Dildo or Dildon’t, and a bad bitch from the Bronx. She’s been the featured educator for some of NYC’s hottest award-winning sex toy stores and written in countless well-known magazines. 

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Best Toys for Mutual Masturbation

It’s Masturbation May, where we celebrate self-love and exploration!

Usually, when we’re talking about masturbation, it’s seen as a solo activity. But there are ways to bring your partner along for the ride and make it even more exciting. That’s the joy of mutual masturbation!

Imagine you and your partner, cozying up together, exploring each other’s bodies and desires in a whole new way. It’s like a playful journey of intimacy where you get to show off your moves and learn what really gets your partner going. And guess what? Your favorite sex toys are invited to the party too! The idea of pleasuring yourself in front of your partner might sound a bit nerve-wracking, especially if it’s your first time. But if you plan it out and talk to your partner about your concerns it’s not as scary as it seems! In fact, it can be pretty thrilling once you get into it. So why not give it a shot? Who knows what delightful discoveries you’ll make together? It’s all about having fun, exploring each other’s bodies, and deepening that special connection between you and your partner. 

Let’s talk about sex toys! Why bring them into the mix, you ask? Well, they’re like the Swiss Army knives of pleasure – offering a whole array of sensations and options to explore.. And here’s the thing – many folks, especially those with clits, need specific types of stimulation to reach the big O, and that’s where sex toys really shine. Plus, using toys during mutual masturbation adds an extra layer of excitement while keeping things safe from pregnancy or STIs. It’s like putting on a tantalizing show for your partner, whether you’re in the spotlight or enjoying the view from the sidelines. Not only does it look hot, but it’s also a fantastic way to show exactly how you like to be touched and learn what gets your partner’s engine revving. So, why not grab your favorite toy and let the pleasure party begin? Trust me, you won’t regret it!

Hand Over Control

The easiest way to get your partner in on the action is by using a remote-controlled sex toy. It’s like having your partner right next to you, even if they’re across the room. Now, if you’re all about putting on a steamy show, positioning is key. The Lust Remote Controlled Dual Rider is a great option to grind against and let your partner get a front-row seat. It’s bound to set the stage on fire! There’s also the Whisperz Vibrating Egg; it’s like the ultimate tease-and-please gadget for you and your partner! You can just pop this discreet little vibe in your panties, and voila! You’re ready to spice things up, whether you’re at home or feeling adventurous out in the world. But here’s the kicker – it’s voice-activated, so your partner can send powerful vibrations your way from up to 25 feet away. But hey, at the end of the day, the best vibrator to use in front of your partner is the one that makes you feel amazing. 

Penetration options

If you’re down for putting on a show for your partner, a dildo with a suction cup is going to be your best friend. Just stick it to a smooth surface like your bathtub, shower, or even a sturdy chair, and you’re good to go!

Now, when it comes to choosing the right dildo, there are a few things to consider. First up, do you prefer something realistic-looking like the Au Naturals or something more on the fantasy spectrum like creature cocks? It’s all about what floats your boat! And hey, if you’re looking for a little extra reach, why not give a double dildo a try? You can use that extra length as a handle for better grip and control. And let’s not forget about size and shape – it’s all about personal preference. The more curved the toy, the better it’ll hit those sweet spots like the G-spot or P-spot.

So go ahead, explore your options, and find the perfect dildo to take your pleasure to new heights!

The Backdoor opens many doors

Did you know that exploring the backdoor can lead to some seriously mind-blowing sensations? Whether you’re looking for indirect G-spot stimulation or direct prostate pleasure, there’s a whole world of pleasure waiting for you.

Fun fact – stimulating the prostate can even lead to full-body and multiple orgasms for many folks! And hey, even if you’re not a prostate owner, the backdoor is packed with nerve endings just waiting to be stimulated.

So, where to start? If you’re new to the game, the Anal Adventures Vibra Slim Plug is a fantastic option. It’s gentle, slim, and even comes with vibrations for an extra thrill. Or, if you’re feeling adventurous and ready to take things up a notch, why not try out some anal beads like the Anal Adventures Platinum Anal Beads? Trust me, pulling them out during orgasm can send your pleasure into overdrive, intensifying those muscle contractions and making your climax even more explosive! So go ahead, embrace the adventure, and unlock a whole new world of pleasure!

Elevate your manual stimulation

It’s time to level up from just using your hand! Ever heard of adding a stroker to your solo sessions or partner play?

Check out the Doc Johnson GoodHead Helping Head Pro. It is designed specifically to enhance the sensations and pleasure during fellatio but is great for all types of manual and oral stimulation. It’s soft on the outside, with massage beads on the inside, made in clear ultra-realistic ULTRASKYN material for a lifelike feel and a visually interesting show.

But why settle for the ordinary when you can take your pleasure to the next level with the GoodHead Grapefruit Blowjob Set. Get all the fun of the grapefruit experience without any of the messy cleanup. You’ll be able to squeeze, stroke, and twist with this fun grapefruit-shaped stoker and enthrall your partner. Trust me, your sessions will never be the same again!

Wettest is best

Even if you’re already feeling pretty slick with your own natural juices, adding a lubricant to the mix can take your pleasure to a whole new level. Take Intimate Earth Hydra, for example – it’s like a match made in heaven for your body’s natural lubrication. Smooth, silky, and oh-so-natural feeling, it’s perfect for solo sessions or getting cozy with your partner. Because let’s face it, when things are nice and slippery, it just feels better! So why not treat yourself to a little extra glide and slide? Your body will thank you for it!

Go forth and explore!

Masturbation isn’t just a one-trick pony! It’s your playground, so why not make it as wild and diverse as you want? Seriously, the options are endless when it comes to enhancing your solo pleasure.

From lube that’ll have you slipping and sliding into ecstasy, to vibrators that’ll take your sensations to a whole new level, and don’t even get me started on anal toys, the world is your oyster!

Think about it,  sex toys open up a whole universe of sensations that you just can’t replicate with your hands alone. It’s like embarking on a journey of self-discovery to figure out exactly what makes your toes curl and your heart race. So go ahead, dive in, and let your imagination run wild, after all, pleasure knows no bounds!

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About the Author

Carly S. is the Queen of Wands, pleasure educator, porn star, model, blogger of Dildo or Dildon’t, and a bad bitch from the Bronx. She’s been the featured educator for some of NYC’s hottest award-winning sex toy stores and written in countless well-known magazines. 

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Accessible Toys to Bring You Joy

Educator Rune Longoria was kind enough to guest post for us, and we are so excited to hear their thoughts!

We’ve talked about toys that didn’t fit our bodies or meet our expectations in the past. We’ve acknowledged that toys are often designed and marketed to an idea of the average woman, but that ideal does not always match our lived experiences.

Ableism, fatphobia, a lack of trauma informed staff in brick-and-mortar stores, any one of these things can keep a person from returning to “try again”. And if anyone reads this and cries “Snowflake! Safe space!”, they can eat a big bag of thumbtacks.

I didn’t eat out in restaurants or shop in store for YEARS because of some humiliating incidents with well-intentioned but ignorant staff. No one has any idea what you’ve gone through, what it took for you to be alive right now. Instead of wasting time trying to justify and nudge a little lump of empathy to the surface, focus your energy on your gorgeous self.

Check over this list and see if an issue you’ve encountered in the past with toys might be accommodated with a different product!

“My hands hurt holding a regular little bullet”

Aria Erotic AF

I can’t be the only person who starts to experience shooting pains in my hands and wrist from holding a tiny bullet for more than a couple minutes. Especially those little buzzy ones that eventually make your junk feel itchy and numb at the same time.

I love the rechargeable Aria Erotic AF for its convenient silicone grip (which I’ve since learned is called a “finger fin”) and rumbly vibrations. It fits between any two fingers and tucks against your palm, so you don’t have to endure the agony of the claw grip to get off. The variety of speeds and patterns will keep your clit engaged (not numb!) for many years to come, thanks to the 5-year warranty from Blush.

“I get out of breath bouncing on a dildo”

Fantasy For Her Love Thrust-Her Self-Heating Mini Sex Machine with Suction Cup Base

Maybe you don’t just get out of breath. Maybe your bum knee or the screws in your back scream in a bad way when you hit that perfect angle with your suction cup dildo. Or maybe you’re a freaking queen and you just want to lie there and get fucked? Me too!

The Thrust-Her features a non-realistic penetrating attachment in a modest size that also vibrates and warms, controlled with a button at the base of the toy or a cordless remote. Its suction cup has a handy feature where you can “lock” it on to a surface and adjust to your preferred angle of penetration. 7 patterns of vibration and 7 patterns of thrusting mean that you can really explore what you enjoy without straining your perfect but achy body.

Pipedream Products really impressed with me this rechargeable beauty, though I am slightly confused on the language “in or out of water”. Does that mean submersible? No clue. It’s definitely waterproof. If y’all do some experimenting, PP has a 60-day warranty for it.

“Loud sounds freak me out”

ZALO Legend Series Bess 2 Heating Clitoral Massager with 4 Attachments

Folks can be sensitive to sounds for all kinds of reasons! Some of us are neurodivergent or prone to migraines or have survived trauma that affects our comfort in noisy environments.

Have you heard of misophonia? According to Harvard Health, “People with misophonia are affected emotionally by common sounds — usually those made by others, and usually ones that other people don’t pay attention to. The examples above (breathing, yawning, or chewing) create a fight-or-flight response that triggers anger and a desire to escape.”

The last place I want to experience a fight-or-flight response is butt naked in bed, and especially not with company present.

The Bess 2 has 8 vibration modes and at top intensity is capped at 40 decibels. Google says that’s equivalent to the sounds of a quiet library. Having been shushed in many a library, I can confidently say that’s pretty darn quiet.

It’s also incredibly elegant in design and function, with 4 different attachments to alter how the toy interacts with your body. No batteries necessary, because I respect y’all too much to recommend a battery-operated product in this price range. ZALO USA has also blessed customers with a 1-year warranty in addition to that quiet thunder for your secret garden.

“I need support and pillows aren’t cutting it”

Liberator Pulse Hands-Free Sex Toy Mount for 1 or 2 Toy

I say this with complete sincerity: I wish I had this when I was younger.

I didn’t have all these back and hip issues in my youth, but I spent way too much time contorting myself in positions that left me sore and grumpy. I told myself even if I didn’t have an orgasm, at least I got an ab workout. This pillow would have saved me so much pain and with all its delightful features I could have gotten a lot more pleasure.

Magical qualities like a pocket for an external vibrator, a second pocket for dildos, and a curved shape to facilitate rocking, thrusting, grinding your way to ecstasy. A machine washable cover for messy jessies and a moisture proof inner liner for those who gush like geysers ensures you have a sanitary and stylish love pillow with or without additional vibrators.

“It’s none of your business why, but rabbits don’t work with my body.”

Gvibe³ Anatomical Massager

You don’t have to tell anyone why a traditional rabbit shape doesn’t work with your body. An elongated shaft with a smaller clitoral stimulator might do wonders for the gal next door, but leaves you frustrated or in actual pain. You still deserve dual clitoral and vaginal stimulation if you so desire. Don’t downgrade to a battery operated remote with double bullets, give the Gvibe³ a shot!

With its unique shape and 3 motors, you’ve been gifted a true Swiss army knife of a toy. Pinch the two ends together for vaginal penetration, or just insert one tip and use the other for clit stimulation. Flip it around and give your backdoor a friendly knock! Surround your clit with bliss by trapping it between the two tips while a partner penetrates you. That 3rd motor in the shaft ensures that no matter how you position this toy, you’re getting phenomenal sensations, whether it’s the perineum, your partner’s prostate, the glorious double wishbone that is your clitoral nerve network- you can reach them all!

But if all you need is a high power, flexible rechargeable vibe for your g spot and clit, Gvibe³ has you covered. 2 hours of charging gives you up to 4 hours of sexy time, so I’m sure you’ll figure out how to use the 6 speeds and its unique shape to hit that Big O best.

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About the Author

Rune Longoria is a queer, trans, Latin@ sex educator and intimacy consultant based on the border of Texas and Mexico. With 10 years of community health, LGBTQIA+, reproductive justice advocacy and education behind them, their goal is to empower and inspire ALL people to claim their pleasure radically and acknowledge consent openly, in every avenue of life. They also would appreciate including that asexuality is a spectrum that deserves acknowledgment and support within the pleasure industry.

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How Do You Start… You Know… Touching Yourself – presented by Coffee@Dawn

Photo by Darius Bashar on Unsplash

 

Welcome to a safe space where we can chat about sexual health and wellness, candid talk with direct language and straightforward responses to your questions. 

 

“Touching yourself in this way is a revolutionary act. It’s bold, powerful, valuable! …This is your body– yours to know, yours to please, yours to love.”

L’s question: How do you start… you know… touching yourself?

Such a brave question!

How do you feel about your body? That’s a good question to ask yourself. Some women only touch themselves to wash in the shower and that’s it. Before we can get down with the big O, we might have to first practice some sensual self love.

Try standing in front of the mirror and giving yourself compliments. Start fully clothed if that is easier, or maybe in your favorite underwear (more on lingerie in another post).

“OOoooooh, woman! You are hot!”

“Your hair is gorgeous today.”

Sashay away and back again. Toss your hair. Wink at yourself. Be playful. Be silly. Flirt with that woman in the mirror. She is sexy!

“What are you doing later?”

“Meet me back here after ________, and I’ll treat you like the queen you are.”

Now plan for your date with that fine woman, and don’t stand her up!

Pick up some flowers while you’re out because she deserves them. Take a shower. Shave if that’s your thing. Pour a beverage, have a snack, and meet yourself in bed.

Don’t go directly to the clitoris! Take it easy. Slow down. Take some time running your hands over the surface of all your skin.

Start on your face with your fingertips. Gently touch your cheeks and your lips. Did you know your ears are erogenous zones filled with sensory receptors? Spend some time there… touching. Imagine warm lips… soft breath… teeth nibbling on your earlobes. Mmmmm…

Move your hand to your neck. Hover there. Close enough to feel the heat between your hand and your throat. The tiniest amount of pressure on the arteries under your jawline can feel exhilarating. Press gently. Feel your pulse. Is it quickening? 

Now your arms. Use one hand to caress your opposite arm. Drag your fingers gently across the surface, or harder if you like. Experiment with pressure or nails. What feels good? What do you like? Take time on your wrists and the inside of your elbows. These are sensitive spots. Imagine your fingers are someone else’s tongue. (Anyone! It’s your imagination.)

Once you’ve taken the time on both arms, move your hands to your breasts. Cup them in your palms. They are perfect! Shhhhhhh… Quiet that critical voice; there’s no room for that here. Take the time to explore them. Press them together, massage them, squeeze them. What feels good? How does it feel when you touch your nipples? When you brush your palms over them… when you roll them between your fingers, softly, then pinching them between your thumb and forefinger. Take your time. How do you like it? 

That beverage you brought with you to the bed… is it beaded with condensation? If you run your fingers along the side of the glass, are they wet? Cold? How does it feel to touch your skin now? Is there an ice cube that you could use to draw a line from your chest to your navel? How do the drops feel tracing rivulets down your sides? Don’t worry about the sheets. They will dry. Stick with the sensations of your beautiful body.

You deserve this. You are worth it. Push your fingers between your legs and separate your thighs. Those delicious thighs. Spread them apart. Treat them with the same care and love that you did your arms. Gentle fingertips or nails grazing the surface… squeezing the flesh in your hands. If you like sharper sensations, try a pinch or a slap in this delicate area. You get to decide what you like. No one is here to judge you. This is your date with your body. Shame is not invited. 

Try rolling onto your stomach. Lie flat or arch your back to raise your hips off the bed, and reach around to the back. All that ass is yours. Love it. Right now, it is the most beautiful ass in the world. Tell yourself. 

Are you flexible? Can you caress your legs? Reach down or up or around and give them the love that they deserve. Now is not the time to criticize or critique. Roll around in the sheets. Feel the texture on your skin. Enjoy this moment with yourself. Love your beautiful body.

We haven’t even gotten to the vulva– the place where your clitoris lives. That is a whole blog to itself! But we will. We will do it together next time. But don’t wait for me; by all means, continue the exploration without my help. Take your time; try different pressures and speeds. Investigate, experiment. Maybe report back and let me know how it went.

Touching yourself in this way is a revolutionary act. It’s bold, powerful, valuable! Maybe someone in your life has shamed you for it. They can f*ck off. This is your body– yours to know, yours to please, yours to love.

Knowing your own body and what you like has so many benefits! It is a form of self-care and self-love, yes. It relieves stress, helps you sleep, releases endorphins… It will also make you a better lover to another. 

Honestly, it will make you more powerful outside of the bedroom as well. If you make time for sensuous self-dates like the one above, you will carry the confidence you are inevitably developing into all areas of your life. Start with you.

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DAWN DAVIS

CONFIDENCE COACH

I Help Women Build Unapologetic Confidence 

In Their Bodies, Bedrooms, and Beyond!

DawnDavisCoaching@gmail.com

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As an educator and a coach, I make an effort to be inclusive in my respect and support of underrepresented sexuality populations: lesbian, bisexual, trans, poly, non-binary, kinky, swinger, BDSM-affilitated women are all invited to have coffee at my table. There is room for all of us.

The information contained within this blog Coffee@Dawn is not a substitute for legal or professional advice such as from an attorney, medical doctor, psychiatrist, or therapist. Coffee@Dawn holds no responsibility or liability for the actions, choices, or decisions taken by the reader.

Sweat Your Way to Better Sex! – Your Guide to the Orgasmic Power of Kegels

In the words of Queen Britney, You better work, b*tch! When you’re getting your sweat on, don’t forget the most important muscles of all – the ones in your vajayjay (and we’re pretty sure Ms. Spears would agree).

Kegel exercises are as trendy as rose gold jewelry and hot yoga classes, and for good reason. This simple pelvic floor workout of squeezing and releasing your PC muscles is the key to more intense orgasms, better sex, and a healthier vagina. Doing daily kegels can even help you bounce back from pregnancy or control those little squirts of pee that sneak out when you laugh or sneeze, better known as incontinence.

Kegel repetitions work to tighten the muscles of the pelvic floor and vaginal walls. Though science has long busted the myth that lots of amazing sex or multiple partners will forever leave you loose, the pelvic muscles can lose their tone and strength over time, just like the rest of your body when you cheat on your fitness routine for too long. If you’ve given birth, you’ll also notice a change in the tightness of your vaginal muscles.

All this stuff is totally normal, but your health and pleasure depend on physical fitness to keep your insides in tip-top shape. When those downstairs muscles are properly primed, you’ll enjoy stronger orgasms and more internal pleasure during penetration.

Adding some Kegels to your repertoire is like eating a whole box of chocolate-covered cherries after your regular workout (except orgasms are way better for your body than processed sugars).

Let’s get you started with an easy-peasy Kegel routine, some goodies to spice up your workout, and a little orgasmic game to throw in for motivation.

How the Heck Does a Kegel Work?

You can do a Kegel from wherever you’re sitting or laying down, and that’s what makes them pretty much awesome. Simply clench your vaginal muscles together, kind of like when you’re holding in a fart (yes, really, that’s it!). You’ll feel your butt cheeks and thighs clench up at the same time. To check that you’re doing it right, use those same muscles to stop the flow of urine the next time you’re on the toilet. If the stream stops, you’re doing it right.

Now clench and hold, and see how long you can keep those muscles flexed. Ideally, aim for 5-10 seconds clenched, and then release. Congrats! You’ve done your first Kegel.

Ready, Get Set, Vagina Reps!

Keeping up with your Kegels is no different from any other fitness routine. You’ve got to stick with it on the daily, but thankfully you don’t have to hit the gym. You can do the ol’ squeeze-and-release while sitting at the office, watching a movie, or anywhere that allows you some down time to yourself.

For beginners, start by clenching for 5 seconds, relaxing for 5 seconds, and then repeating this pattern 10 times in sets of 3. Work your way up to clenching for 10 seconds and then relaxing for 10, also aiming for 3 sets of 10 reps.

Twist It Up With Some “Exercise Equipment”

You’ll eventually want to add some resistance to move up to the next level, or maybe you could use a little coaching to get it right. There are all sorts of sexy workout toys to guide your routine or add some light weights to build that kitty into a fierce, dildo-crushing jaguar. (Ok, we’re kidding, you probably won’t crush your sex toy, but your partner will definitely feel the difference.)

Bloom by We-Wibe

We-Vibe’s luxurious Bloom is for the Kegel-ciser who wants it all. Bloom’s smart phone app guides you through your workout like a mini personal trainer. You can even swap out the weights to match your endurance level. Those 10 rumbly vibrations keep you motivated and on track for success.

 

Pussy Playballs Kegel Training Set by Rianne S

Take your Kegel toys on the go with this ultra girly kit from fashion-forward brand Rianne S. The Pussy Playballs are basic Kegel weights disguised as adorable accessories in their coral-pink cosmetic bag. Each of the 4 balls adds on a little more weight, making it easy to step up your workout anytime.

 

Body & Soul Entice Kegel Balls

These easy-to-remove Kegel balls keep it super basic, and they’re perfect for beginners on a budget. The stretchy silicone string and smooth, polished plastic balls help you figure out just how to wrap your v-muscles around their first workout toy.

 

Fantasy for Her Remote Kegel Exercise-Her

If the duo-ball shape doesn’t do it for you, these Fantasy for Her Kegel balls are designed like a tear drop and made just as much for orgasms as exercise. Ten vibration modes take you through a whirlwind workout routine, which we’re pretty sure is going to wind up going south into climax land pretty quickly. You can even use this versatile piece of strength training equipment as an external bullet vibe.

 

Kegel Your Way to an Orgasmic Workout

Once you’ve gotten the kick of Kegel-ing, now comes the fun and games. You can combine your self-pleasure sessions with your daily down-there workout to add in a little reward – orgasms!

Choose a Kegel toy that vibrates as you squeeze, and as you go about your reps, notice how the vibrations ripple through your sacred space. Feel those heavenly vibes stimulate your g-spot and rumble up through your clitoris as you clench. Move your mindset from weightlifting champ to masturbation mode, and enjoy the subtle sensations of the toy as it rocks inside you.

Once you’ve gotten through your usual round of reps, you’ll be all worked up and ready to reach the finish line. Keep going with a few more reps of clench-and-release (or start your Kegel-ciser’s program from the beginning), but this time, slowly massage your clitoris as the Kegel toy’s vibrations bring you to the brink. Hold off for as long as you can, savoring the uniquely subtle pleasure of this deliciously gentle yet deep self-love technique.

When you’re ready, let yourself climax as the Kegel toy gushes forth another 10 second rep of vibration. In this tuned-in state, you’ll feel every last wave as your orgasm matches the toy’s burst of vibes.

Now who said working out has to suck?

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Kinkly’s 5 Tips for Finding That Elusive ‘Nipplegasm’

 

Photo credit: Kinkly

Takeaway: Nipplegasms aren’t common, but even if you don’t make it all the way to O-town, playing with them can still be a lot of fun.

 

I’m sure you’ve heard of the elusive nipplegasm: the idea that a person can orgasm just from stimulation of the nipples. Not limited to a single gender, nipplegasms can be experienced by anyone with sensitive nipple tissue. Nipplegasms aren’t common, but even if you don’t make it all the way to O-town, playing with them can still be a lot of fun.

Some people find that nipple stimulation with the hands is enough stimulation for orgasm. If that’s you, that’s great! However, you wouldn’t be here if the idea of nipple toys didn’t appeal to you. Even if you’ve been unable to experience a nipplegasm before, you might want to see if sex toys can help make the experience hotter. Not only can some of these toys increase the sensitivity of the nipples, but they can provide hands-free stimulation of the nipples while you choose to focus on other areas. Here are some tips on how to zero-in on that elusive nipple orgasm.

Nipple Pumps

Suction feels fabulous on other sensitive areas, so why not try the nipples? Nipple pumps are pumping toys that can be used to create this sensation. With a hollow chamber pressed firmly onto the nipples, the suction pump is used to remove air from the chamber – which provides suction onto the nipples and helps engorge the nipple with blood. Much like the penis, a fully erect and fully engorged nipple tends to be more sensitive to any type of stimulation you want to give it.

These vacuum nipple suckers are simple, inexpensive and can be sensational fun. Get them at Indigo Honey.

 

Read the rest of 5 Tips for Finding That Elusive ‘Nipplegasm’ at Kinkly.com 

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Think Pink: Your Vibrator Purchase Benefits Living Beyond Breast Cancer

Inspire is a collection of thoughtfully designed products aimed at improving the lives of women on their journey for heightened sexual experiences.

A portion of proceeds from Inspire products always benefits Living Beyond Breast Cancer (LBBC), a non-profit that provides programs and services to those affected by breast cancer. In honor of breast cancer awareness month, the manufacturer of the line, CalExotics, is doubling their regular donation! Double the proceeds from each sale of Inspire will go to LBBC to continue the fight and help women take control of their sexual health.

Here are some of the Inspire items we here at IndigoHoney.com love the most. Like all of our powered items, they are all rechargeable, waterproof, and backed by a manufacturer’s warranty:

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Inspire Flickering Intimate Arouser

This oscillating arouser was designed to enhance intimate sensitivity, and offers 10 functions of vibration, pulsation and escalation. The ergonomically curved handle ends in a silky silicone cup that houses a soft flickering tongue-like tip for incredible sensations and full-contact arousal.

Inspire Vibrating G-Wand Bendable Massager

The Vibrating G-Wand offers a bulbous tip to strengthen the pelvic floor, and 10 functions of vibration, pulsation and escalation to help increase circulation and blood flow. The shaft flexes and bends for multi-directional positioning, making sure that you’ll always hit the right spot.

Inspire Vibrating Ultimate Wand

The Ultimate Wand is a vibrating massager you can use to increase circulation and decrease muscle pain anywhere on the body, as well as an intimately sensual personal stimulator. Dressed in premium silicone, it offers 10 functions of vibration, pulsation and escalation.

Inspire Silicone Dilator Kit

Dilator therapy is an at-home treatment known to restore and revive vaginal strength and comfort by gradually allowing the user to comfortably reduce pelvic floor muscle tension by training those muscles to relax. The Inspire Dilator Kit contains a range of different sized dilators to allow for appropriate size and progression of treatment over time at your own pace.

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The Horrifying Day I Learned Vaginas Can Seal SHUT From Lack Of Use

Vaginal atrophy: It’s a real thing.

I used to really love sex. Like, there was a point in my life (my early to mid-twenties) when I was pretty convinced regular sex was one of the only good reasons to be in a relationship. It’s never been a secret and my sex drive has never been an issue.

But that was then.

Don’t get me wrong, I still have a high sex drive. But I also have a toddler, and I work from home. I can’t remember the last time I met a man I was even mildly interested in, which is why I somehow went from being a girl who loved sex to one who’s spent the last four years mostly abstinent.

Even just typing that word makes me sad.

I guess life just got in the way of dating. And most of the time, I’m OK with that fact. Adopting my daughter was the best thing to ever happen to me. I’d rather spend Friday nights with her than out at a bar searching for my next boyfriend.

But the length of my dry spell has been the butt of plenty of jokes among my friends. (Because apparently it’s hilarious to make fun of the girl who no longer remembers what a penis looks like.)

The running joke has been my vagina is going to seal up from lack of use. And maybe something about cobwebs, because my friends are assh*les.

Mostly, I brush these jokes off. Or I join in on them, recognizing that the lack of sex (or even just the lack of chemistry) in my life right now is kind of depressing. If I don’t laugh about it, I might cry.

But that’s all it’s been — a joke. Obviously, all the equipment will still work just fine, sans cobwebs, when I meet a man worth jumping into the sack with. Vaginas don’t actually seal shut, right?

That’s what I’ve been telling myself; that this is just a period of my life where I’m focused on other things; that the time will come when I meet someone I really like and can reconnect with that girl I once was; that I will have sex again someday. At least when the toddler is sleeping.

But then I got hired to write some health articles for a website dedicated to menopause. This wasn’t all that atypical a job for me. I’m kind of a layman expert (if there’s such a thing) on women’s health, being mostly self-taught after years spent battling endometriosis. I ghostwrite for quite a few medical websites on various topics related to the vagina. This was just my first foray into menopause.

So, imagine my surprise when I started research for an article on “Vaginal Atrophy.” Never heard of this term? That’s OK, neither had I. But the gist is that when a woman is going through menopause, the lack of estrogen in her body can cause the vaginal tissues to thin out and the vaginal walls to inflame.

Over time, the muscles will actually atrophy and cease working as they should. Continued sexual activity can reduce the decline, keeping those muscles engaged and active. But if you aren’t having sex when this is going on, sex in the future can become very uncomfortable, at best, and nearly impossible in some cases.

I sat at my computer, slack-jawed, reading story after story of women whose vaginas may not have sealed shut exactly, but became basically non-functional due to lack of activity during these low-estrogen periods. Because, that’s right, this doesn’t just happen during menopause— it can also happen while breastfeeding, or during any other point in your life when your estrogen levels or low.

Did I mention that I have endometriosis, an estrogen-dependent disease that has my doctors continually monitoring my hormone levels and trying to keep my estrogen low? Yeah…

I was having a girls’ night with friends a few days after my research, and I brought the topic up, wondering if they’d ever heard of this condition themselves.

“Oh yeah, vaginal atrophy,” one of my friends said. “I have a friend who’s a lesbian who has it. She can’t even get vaginal exams anymore.”

Apparently the vagina is a “use it or lose it” part of the female anatomy. Which, as a single mom who doesn’t have a whole lot of time (or even desire) to be using it right now, is a pretty horrific discovery to make.

All this time, I’ve been telling myself that when she’s older I’ll start dating again. Or when I get my business to the point where I don’t feel like I have to work every single day. Or when life just slows down a little.

But what if that day comes and my vagina really has sealed shut?

I’m not sure how long it takes for this whole atrophy thing to happen, though. I think I’m still good for now. But why aren’t more women talking about this? Why aren’t we made more aware that this is something that can actually happen?

I’m not sure how it changes anything. I mean, even knowing this information, I’m not feeling all that inclined to just jump the next man who shows interest. But if knowledge is power, consider me the woman who’s now spreading the word.

Vaginas actually can seal shut. This is a thing. So know your body, pay attention to the signs (drying up down there can be your first clue), and see a doctor if you’ve got concerns. Because even if you don’t want to use it today, you might still want to someday.

And while cobwebs probably aren’t a real concern, vaginal atrophy just might be.

Leah Campbell’s article was originally posted on Your Tango.

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Indigo Honey Notes:

A preventative measure is to keep the blood flowing to the vulva and vaginal area. Vibrators are an effective (and fun!) way to accomplish this, and use of a vibe at least once a week can help a TON to increase circulation.