Kinkly’s Ideas To Celebrate the Clitoris: 7 Suction-Based Sex Toys To Try

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Takeaway: Suction can deliver powerful sensation – and orgasms.

If there’s a recent trend that’s really taken off in sex toys over the past few years, it’s suction. And it’s no surprise. If you have a clitoris and have been on the receiving end of clitoral suction, whether from a toy or an obliging partner, you understand the powerful orgasms this sensation can deliver.

Suction helps draw blood into the clitoris while gently stimulating it, often without vibration – or even touching it at all! It can also stimulate deep into the clitoral complex which, for some people, delivers the most powerful orgasms they’ve ever experienced.

Plus, for those who are sensitive to vibrations, the sensation of suction can be a welcome change, one that often leaves your body begging for more, more, more.

Looking to give a suction-based sex toy a try? Here are seven that’ll have you celebrating the clitoris!


ZALO Queen PulseWave G-Spot Vibrator and Suction Sleeve

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When it comes to suction-based sex toys, the ZALO Queen is both two-in-one and one-of-a-kind. It’s a both well-shaped G-spot vibrator AND a clitoral stimulator. Use the G-spotter on its own, or place the suction sleeve over it for targeted nipple or clitoral stimulation. The Queen even warms to 107 degrees before use. It’s one of the most unique and luxurious sex toys we’ve seen this year.

See the entire article and the rest of the list on Kinkly.com


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10 Travel-friendly Sex Toys That Discreetly Fit In A Sunglasses Case

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As much as I love my gigantic dildos, they’re not the most practical toys to take with me when I’m on-the-go or visiting family. Sometimes, I have only a backpack to fit my belongings in for the week. And a bulky VixSkin Outlaw isn’t easy to hide in the off-chance that my parents snoop through my stuff. I know: I’m an adult, and that shouldn’t be happening. But it does happen. My mom is neurotic, and that’s the reality on the occasions where I visit her.

This list includes G-spot toys and external toys, all petite enough to fit inside my case meant for big sunglasses. The case physically protects them, conceals them, and makes them relatively uninteresting to people snooping. Plus, it’s easy to bury in the rest of my stuff.

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External clitoral bullet vibrators are especially easy-to-hide because they’re so tiny. That doesn’t mean you have to sacrifice power, though. The Blush Novelties Exposed Nocturnal bullet is 0.9″ wide and 4″ long, but it’s powerful enough for me to use through underwear and a pantiliner. It’s not the rumbliest or most quiet bullet, but it does offer near-Hitachi-level power in a small, pinpoint package. And it’s waterproof, so I can use it in the shower to drown out the loud vibrations.

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5 Tips for Buying Anal Beads (according to Kinkly)

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Takeaway: Anal beads are one of the best toys out there for butt newbies – if you find the right set for you.

 

If you enjoy that wonderful, pleasurable sensation of the first bit of penetration during anal sex, anal beads are going to be your new favorite toy.

As a toy that basically consists of a strand of anal-safe beads, you can insert the beads, one by one, to experience that sensation over and over again. You also get to experience it on the way out!

Anal beads are well-loved by experienced players as well as beginners; the simplistic design makes it easy to go as far as you’d like and take as much time as you want.

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5 Steps to a Healthy and Orgasmic Pelvic Floor from Kinkly

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Takeaway: Taking care of your pelvic floor could lead to the best orgasms of your life.

 

The pelvic floor.

You’ve probably heard this term and it certainly doesn’t sound sexy. However, this area of your body is key to sexual health, sexual performance and your enjoyment of sex.

Now I’ve got your attention, right? Here we’ll take a look at the pelvic floor, how it works and what you can do to keep yours as healthy – and orgasmic – as possible.

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These Are the New Orgasm Statistics Every Woman Should See

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Are you not having an orgasm every time you have sex? You’re not alone.

Only 57% of women usually have orgasms when they have sex with a partner, according to new data from Cosmopolitan‘s Female Orgasm Survey. Now compare that to their partners, who are apparently orgasming 95% of the time, the women say. Notice how far apart those are?

This recent study, which surveyed more than 2,300 women ages 18 to 40, captures what a lot of women are realizing about their orgasms: There are still clear obstacles standing between women and the pleasure they deserve.

Mechanical issues

Simple as it may sound, many women’s orgasm problems can be chalked up to bad mechanics. Fifty percent of women said their partners were almost there but just couldn’t quite bring them home. Thirty-eight percent of women claimed there wasn’t enough clitoral stimulation, and 35% of women said they weren’t getting the right kind of clitoral stimulation.

These stats are unsurprising when you realize how essential the clitoris is in helping a woman achieve orgasm. While percentages are hard to pin down, experts say most women need to have their clitoris stimulated in order to orgasm; and yet the clit remains a mysterious body part. In a 2005 study of 833 undergraduate students, women and men were just as likely to mislabel the clitoris on a diagram.

Having better knowledge of the parts can indeed help the mechanics. A 2014 study from the Journal of Sexual Medicine found that lesbian women orgasm about 75% of the time during sex with a consistent partner. Notice how high that is? The researchers concluded that homosexual women are more comfortable with their bodies and their partners’, and thus able to achieve orgasm more easily, as reported by Mic‘s Erin Brodwin.

Physically, we can also help things along by relaxing: According to the Cosmo survey, 32% of women are getting caught up in their own head and getting focused on how they look in bed.

Getting the attention we deserve

While 78% of women believed their partners cared about their orgasm, 72% of women still experienced a time when their partner climaxed but made no attempt to help them finish. Ouch.

Leaving a woman high and dry might come from a lack of mechanical understanding, but the orgasm gap also reflects how our cultural views of men’s versus women’s pleasure. After all, it takes much longer on average for a woman to orgasm (up to 20 or even 40 minutes, some experts say), and yet the standard expectation is that sex ends when a man comes.

That’s one reason why, according to Cosmo‘s survey, up to 67% of women have ever faked an orgasm. “It’s partly social; our culture gives more value to behaviors that result in orgasm for men,” Indiana University sex researcher Debby Herbenick told Slate.

It’s important to remember the responsibility for —and entitlement to — pleasure isn’t on one partner, but rather on both. “Chances are, people aren’t communicating in bed about what works for them,” Michelle Ruiz, senior editor at Cosmopolitan, told Mic.

It’s in our hands

So how are women actually achieving orgasm, if they’re not always coming from their partners? Often, it’s on their own. The survey found that 39% of women reach most of their orgasms through use of a hand or sex toy.

“Don’t just expect someone to magically know how to please you,” said Ruiz. “Champion your own orgasm as well! Masturbate and experiment on your own and find out what turns you on, so you can let a partner know. Then, let a partner know.”

With more and more toys and tools for women to achieve orgasm hitting the market, and more conversations opening up about where female pleasure actually comes from, there’s never been a better time to work towards closing the orgasm gap. After all, if the statistics are right, it’s in men’s and women’s hands.

 

These Are the New Orgasm Statistics Every Woman Should See was originally posted on Mic.

 

8 Things Every Woman Should Know About Her Libido

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Here today, gone tomorrow — your libido can be puzzling, to say the least.

But that ebb and flow is completely natural, says Lauren Streicher, MD, clinical associate professor of obstetrics and gynecology at Northwestern Memorial Hospital in Chicago: “All women go through periods when they feel especially frisky, as well as times when they just seem to have lost their mojo.” Read on to learn about the many reasons your libido may come and go, and how to find it when you miss it. Curious about aphrodisiacs? We’ve got those too, from strawberries to Savasana.

The brain is your biggest sex organ

Your brain is where the spark starts. Five of the most important areas:

Ventral striatum: A 2012 fMRI study found that this area lights up when you see something lust-inducing (like, say, Idris Elba):

  • Amygdala: Some research suggests that your sex drive may be proportional to the size of your amygdala, the almond-shaped emotion center of your brain.
  • Hypothalamus: When you experience something rewarding (such as a great kiss), this part of the brain produces dopamine, a neurotransmitter that’s critical for pleasure and motivation.
  • Cerebral cortex: The brain’s outer layer of gray matter is responsible for higher functions, including thoughts about sex. It triggers a chain reaction that ultimately leads to the production of sex hormones.
  • Pituitary: This gland secretes luteinizing hormone, which stimulates your ovaries to produce estrogen. It also makes the “mothering” hormone prolactin — typically during pregnancy and breastfeeding — which lowers libido.

Desire may increase with age

A 2010 study showed that as a woman’s fertility wanes in her 30s and 40s, her sexual fantasies become more frequent and steamier (!) and her sex drive becomes stronger overall.

Researchers suspect it’s an evolutionary trick, designed to up your odds of procreating by encouraging you to do the deed more often. Life circumstances play a role, too, says Dr. Streicher, who wrote Sex Rx: Hormones, Health, and Your Best Sex Ever. “You’re more comfortable with your partner and less worried about contraception,” she explains.

Of course, there’s also the confidence that comes with age: A large 2015 survey discovered that most women who find sex more pleasurable as they get older credit their improved body image. After all, there’s nothing like feeling sexy to put you in the mood.

The pink pill has perks—and risks

Last year, the FDA approved Addyi, the first-ever Rx sex drug for women. Unlike its male counterpart, Viagra, which works by improving blood flow to the genital region, Addyi is thought to boost desire by altering the balance of neurotransmitters (like serotonin and dopamine) in a woman’s brain.

Alas, the daily pill, approved for premenopausal women, has a range of unsexy possible side effects — including nausea, dizziness, and sleepiness — and alcohol isn’t allowed while you’re on it.

For postmenopausal women, there are other options that may help increase libido, such as the topical cream ON Libido, or the daily wellness supplement Hot Rawks.

Stress kills your sex drive

“Lab research has shown that women experiencing stress, as evidenced by increased cortisol, have less response to erotic cues,” says Sheryl Kingsberg, PhD, chief of the division of behavioral medicine at University Hospitals Case Medical Center in Cleveland.

“Stress is a tremendous distracter,” she explains. “It takes away from your ability to focus and be fully present.” But distraction isn’t the only factor. Tension can take a toll on a relationship, too. It’s not surprising that a Monmouth University study found that couples placed in stressful situations behaved more poorly to each other. “Disdain and anger are definitely not aphrodisiacs,” says Dr. Streicher.

Stress can also prevent you from sleeping enough, leaving you too pooped to get busy. The good news: A 2015 study revealed that just one extra hour of shut-eye a night leads to a 14 percent boost in libido.

Some medications can affect sex drive

Some meds can make your sex drive take a nosedive. If you suspect that any of these drugs are to blame, ask your doctor about switching to an alternative.

  • Birth control pills: They lower levels of active estrogen and testosterone, explains Dr. Streicher. Progestin-only pills and IUDs are just as effective at preventing pregnancy and don’t tamp down libido.
  • SSRIS: These antidepressants are known libido busters, but a different type of drug — bupropion — is less likely to affect sex drive.
  • Blood pressure meds: In a French study, 41 percent of postmenopausal women taking these drugs reported lowered sexual desire. Beta-blockers, often used to treat hypertension, are common culprits. You may want to consider trying valsartan, another type of blood pressure med that has actually been shown to boost libido.
  • Antihistamines: These drugs tend to dry out mucus-producing cells everywhere in the body, including the vagina, says Dr. Streicher. But the side effect is less common with second-generation antihistamines (like Zyrtec and Claritin). There are nondrug allergy treatments as well, such as immunotherapy shots and pills, and of course the use of a personal lubricant always helps.

Yoga can help

Can Downward Dog really up your libido? When researchers had women do an hour of yoga daily, they found that nearly 75 percent were more satisfied with their sex life after 12 weeks.

It makes sense, given the relaxing effects of yoga. “By facilitating deeper breathing and calming the autonomic nervous system, yoga can help direct more blood flow to the pelvic organs,” says Timothy McCall, MD, author of Yoga as Medicine. So we asked yoga teacher Kate Hanley, author of A Year of Daily Calm, for three lust-stimulating poses.

Her top picks: Cobra (it might trigger a surge in testosterone, according to a 2004 study), Extended Side Angle (it stretches out your pelvis), and Savasana (it quiets the chatter in your mind).

If your libido is MIA, see your MD

It’s tempting to dismiss a dwindling sex drive, chalking it up to a hectic month (or year)—but any significant drop that lasts more than a few weeks is worth getting checked out, says Dr. Streicher.“You may have an underlying medical condition,” she explains.

At the top of the list of possibilities: hypothyroidism, which can affect the production of sex hormones, and depression, which interferes with feel-good neurotransmitters. The problem could also be hypertension or even undiagnosed type 2 diabetes.

The fact is, virtually any chronic condition can wreak havoc on your libido, says Dr. Streicher, because “your body has little energy left for anything else.” If you’ve lost your sex drive, see your doc, she urges. The right treatment could get you back on track.

Certain foods can help

Spice things up! Health’s nutritionist, Cynthia Sass, RD, serves up five tasty aphrodisiacs.

  • Berries: Blueberries and strawberries both contain an antioxidant called anthocyanin, which boosts circulation, creating a “natural Viagra effect,” explains Sass. One cup a week can also help prevent high blood pressure, according to 2011 research.
  • Red wine: It’s loaded with polyphenols, which help improve blood flow. Women who enjoy a glass or two of red wine a day report more sexual desire than teetotalers, according to a study done in Italy (naturally).
  • Watermelon: Thank citrulline, a nutrient that sets off a chain reaction to relax blood vessels and increase circulation to all parts of your body, according to research from Texas A&M University.
  • Chickpeas: The humble garbanzo bean is a terrific source of zinc, which has been shown to help regulate testosterone levels in men, says Sass. For a date-night appetizer, serve him a batch of roasted chickpeas or some roasted veggies with hummus.
  • Licorice: A study by the Smell & Taste Treatment and Research Foundation in Chicago found that the scent of Good & Plenty licorice candy, when mixed with the smell of cucumber, triggered a 13 percent increase in vaginal blood flow. Go figure!

8 Things Every Woman Should Know About Her Libido originally appeared on Health.com.

How Your Pelvic Floor Muscles Affect Sex (And Other Things)

Plus what you can do if you have a weak pelvic floor.

This was originally posted on The Huffington Post Australia, and is chock full of great info.

How Your Pelvic Floor Muscles

It has to be said, Sex And The City taught us a decent amount about the intimate lives of women. Without it how would be know about ugly sex, teeth placement and Kegel exercises? (We’ll leave you to Google the first two.)

Kegel exercises, AKA strengthening the pelvic floor, is something Samantha kindly educated Charlotte on. But what exactly is it? And is it important?

“The pelvic floor is a sling of muscles which rest at the base of the pelvis,” Kathryn Warr, Principal Physiotherapist and Founder of IvoryRose Physiotherapy for Her told The Huffington Post Australia.

“These muscles stretch like a bit of a trampoline, running from the pubic bone to the tailbone and are made up of two distinct layers — a superficial layer and a deep layer.”

Cool, a mini trampoline somewhere near the vagina. And it’s there to make sex feel good, right? Not quite.

“There are multiple purposes of the pelvic floor muscles as a unit, such as lower back support, sexual function, bladder and bowel control and pelvic organ support. Basically, if we didn’t have these muscles at the base of our pelvis, all of our pelvic organs would fall out,” Warr said.

So it’s not just about sex, though it’s important to understand its purpose during the act as it can increase sensation.

“It is time to drop the taboo culture and start talking. There is a sense of normalizing the whole thing which I understand can make people feel better. However, just because something is common does not make it normal. Confidence is empowering, it is hard to be confident when you are wetting your pants!”

“Sexual response is incredibly multifactorial however, one component can be the influence of the pelvic floor,” Warr said.

“It has been suggested that learning to squeeze the pelvic floor during sex may contribute to sensation. If you think about it, the more ‘in touch’ you can get with these muscles, i.e. how they work, how to squeeze them and how to relax them, the more sensation you may be able to experience. I’ve had some women tell me that after paying more attention to the control and coordination of their pelvic floor muscles, they have found new heights to their sensation and awareness during sex.”

Sex aside, it’s a fact of life that a woman will likely experience a weakened pelvic floor later in life, particularly if she’s a mum.

“Females can experience pelvic floor weakness for a number of reasons, such as things like trauma during childbirth where the pelvic floor muscles may be torn or injured. If this was to happen it normally takes place during the second stage of labour when mum is pushing and is much more common with assisted deliveries where things like forceps are used. With that said, even just carrying a pregnancy can weaken these muscles so it is not all about the birth as such,” Warr said.

“Also, it’s really important to understand that it is not just women who are having babies that are at risk. Other things such as constipation, years of straining on the loo, and poor technique during heavy weight lifting can also lead to pelvic floor weakness. This is because there can be a great deal of pressure inside the abdomen during these activities which can lead to weakening of the muscles over time.”

Warr emphasis that it’s important to get confirmation if you think you may have a weak pelvic floor.

“I say this because there are a number of women that we see whom are convinced they have weakness, when in fact their muscles are actually too tight (leading to shortening of the fibers). If any muscle in the body is too tight and unable to lengthen, we know that this can effectively render that muscle useless. In the case of pelvic floor, these women can have symptoms of ‘weakness’ such as leaking and can also experience pain with things like sex,” Warr said.

“Here is where I would say that a physiotherapist who has a special interest and experience in this area is invaluable. They will be able to assess the muscles properly and guide the woman through a strength and coordination program. If required, women can also be shown how to use of things like vaginal weights and other pelvic floor specific feedback tools. These tools are great to help to monitor their progress.”

Research shows there are a number of women out there trying to do their pelvic floor exercises by reading a pamphlet.

“As you can imagine, this has limited feedback. As a result, unfortunately many are getting the technique completely wrong. Understanding your anatomy and getting feedback is key,” Warr said.

Signs that you may have a weak pelvic floor (or in fact, the muscles may be too tight) include bladder control issues, accidentally passing wind, pain in the pelvis and painful sex.

“This topic has been viewed as taboo for many decades despite women all around the world experiencing a variety of pelvic floor symptoms. Whether that is the woman who runs to the bathroom in the middle of a gym class versus the other end of the spectrum, the woman who is biting the pillow during sex because she is in so much pain,” Warr said.

“It is time to drop the taboo culture and start talking. I see these ‘band aid’ products such as advertisements for pads, guiding a thought process of “OK this is now my lot in life”, and we can become impartial to it. There is a sense of normalizing the whole thing which I understand can make people feel better. However, just because something is common does not make it normal. Nor is it something that can’t be helped. Confidence is empowering, it is hard to be confident when you are wetting your pants!”

Hear hear! The take home advice? Do something now! Go see your doctor,  seek out a specialist, or simply try some at-home Kegel training routines.

 

22 Underrated Perks Of Being Single

Originally posted on Huffington Post

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Let’s face it: “single” is often considered the worst of relationship statuses.

So many of us are in such a rush to couple up, we never slow down and take stock of all the small things that make being single so damn wonderful. (Really, who needs a relationship when you have Netflix, pizza and wifi?)

Below, 22 things that are completely underrated about being single:

  1. There’s no such thing as “her” or “his” sides of the bed. Migrate to the right, move it to the left, lay claim to the middle — it’s all yours, baby.
  2. The Netflix account is all yours, too. (So zero judgement if you feel compelled to binge watch “Bridezillas,” seasons 1-10)
  3. Toilet paper costs a lot less when you’re buying for one.
  4. There’s zero mental energy wasted asking yourself, “Is he the one?” or “Do I really love her?” or “How will I know?”
  5. You can leave a party whenever YOU want to.
  6. You learn that there’s a hugedifference between loneliness and being alone. You start to appreciate your own company, which hopefully lays the foundation for a pretty solid future relationship, if you choose to have one.
  7. Your framed Audrey Hepburn quote photo and sparkly fish collection can absolutely be the focal points of your room. (Picking your own room decor > merging items with your S.O. who doesn’t want his room to look like Lisa Frank threw up in it.)
  8. Go ahead: Regulate the temperature in your house or bedroom however you see fit. #blessed
  9. Compromise is important and all but you have the freedom to figure out what you really want for yourself and go out and live it.
  10. The unadulterated excitement of getting a text from someone cute you met during a night out.
  11. The chances that someone will use your toothbrush by accident seriously decrease.
  12. Instead of having a monthly ladies’ or guys’ night, you can put the time and energy into the long-term friendships that have sustained you before, during and after romantic relationships.
  13. Also? You can be friends with other men or women without being worried your S.O. will get jealous or think something romantic is going on.
  14. Your bathroom is always clean to your (high, high) standards. Or your low ones: Don’t want to put the cap back on the toothpaste or put the toilet seat down? You do (dirty) you.
  15. Three words: Glorious uninterrupted sleep. You aren’t woken up by your partner’s alarm that goes off two hours earlier than yours.
  16. When you open a bottle of wine, it’s likely not gone in one night. Less people to drink it = two or three nights of wine (It’s all about saving money, people).
  17. Not feeling pressured to get out of bed and be productive just because your S.O. is up and doing stuff is pure bliss. So what if you want to read for two hours in bed before making breakfast?
  18. You can go weeks (months?) without a bikini wax and nobody cares. (Same goes for your massive beard, dudes.)
  19. You don’t have to worry about anyone taking your leftovers. Or all the hot water from the shower. Or your last can of cold beer… or anything you don’t want to share, ever.
  20. You’re more motivated to leave your apartment and do cool shit when you don’t have the option of laying around with one person all the time. Being single makes you more adventurous!
  21. No judgments when your housecleaning playlist includes ABBA, Britney Spears and a few Stephen Sondheim ditties.
  22. You were told that your soul mate is supposed to be your best friend but really, the best thing about being single is realizing how to be your own best friend — loving yourself, being happy hanging out with yourself, learning about yourself. At the end of the day, the only person you’re guaranteed to spend every. single. day of your life with is yourself.

 

4 Things Nobody Tells You About Sex After 35

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I thought this article from Oprah by  Alice Oglethorpe was pretty great, so I thought I’d repost it for you ladies:


 

You may think sex stays the same until menopause, but shifts that start around your mid-30s can have a huge impact on what goes on in between the sheets—for better and for, well, not so good.

The “Dirty-30s” Aren’t Guaranteed

We’ve all heard that women hit their sexual peak starting in their late 30s and extending up to their early 40s, but that may not be true for everyone.

Why: “Many women are surprised to hear that their testosterone, the hormone of desire, starts to decline as early as in their 20s,” says Leah S. Millheiser, MD, director of the Female Sexual Medicine Program at Stanford Health Care. “But every woman experiences a drop of up to 50 percent in her testosterone levels between her 20s and 50s.” You know about the factor that’s coming next, but it’s worth a reminder: The stresses of life in your 30s (work, family, friends and when, exactly, are you supposed to fit in exercise again?) also interfere with this in-my-sexual-prime ideal. “Women are sexually plastic, meaning their desire is more impacted by outside factors than men’s,” says Millheiser. In other words, when life gets crazy, your sex drive goes to sleep.

(Indigo Honey Tip: ON Libido can help boost your T levels naturally.)

 

There May Be an Unexpected Culprit Causing Your Dryness

It’s not just your naturally declining testosterone—it’s your choice of contraception.

Why: You’re more likely to use some form of birth control as you progress from your 20s to your 40s, according to a report from the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, which found that 75.3 percent of women 40 to 44 years old were using contraception, compared with 69.7 percent of 30-to-34-year-olds and 58.3 percent of 20-to-24-year-olds. If it happens to be the pill (28 percent of all women using birth control opt for that method, found the same CDC report), your testosterone is taking another hit. “Birth control pills stop you from ovulating, which lowers testosterone, and also increase a protein that binds testosterone, meaning there’s less of it freely flowing in your blood stream,” says Alyssa Dweck, MD, assistant clinical professor in the department of obstetrics, gynecology and reproductive science at Mount Sinai School of Medicine. “So you’ll feel dryer during sex, which can make it not-so-comfortable.” There’s a simple solution, though: add a lubricant to the mix. You can also talk to your gynecologist about switching to an IUD, which doesn’t have the same effect on testosterone levels.

(Indigo Honey Tip: Add a quality lubricant designed for women to supplement your natural moisture.)

 

The Magic Number Is Lower Than You Think

You can stop putting pressure on yourself to make time for twice- or thrice-weekly date nights.

Why: Couples reported peak happiness when they were having sex once per week, according to a recent study in Social Psychological and Personality Science. Researchers looked at data from more than 30,000 people and found that while having sex less frequently than that was linked to lower well-being, happiness leveled off at once a week—meaning twice-weekly sex didn’t make people twice as happy. So anytime you hear that sex gets less frequent as you get older and that that can put a strain on your relationship (hence the date nights), remember that once a week may be all you need.

 

That Thing You’re After Won’t Feel So Hard to Reach

Orgasms become easier for women as we age, according to results from the National Survey of Sexual Health and Behavior.

Why: Because by this point, you’ll have learned how to do it. “Men orgasm when they ejaculate—it’s more of a mechanical process—but when women orgasm their brains have to get into it,” says Dweck. “So many women in their 20s are still focusing on intercourse as a key to orgasming; it can take until your mid-30s to realize what combination of touch and thought process will get you where you want to go.”

(Indigo Honey Tip: Try a clitoral stimulating product to make it even easier to reach the big O.)

 

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