Sweat Your Way to Better Sex! – Your Guide to the Orgasmic Power of Kegels

KegelIn the words of Queen Britney, You better work, b*tch! When you’re getting your sweat on, don’t forget the most important muscles of all – the ones in your vajayjay (and we’re pretty sure Ms. Spears would agree).

Kegel exercises are as trendy as rose gold jewelry and hot yoga classes, and for good reason. This simple pelvic floor workout of squeezing and releasing your PC muscles is the key to more intense orgasms, better sex, and a healthier vagina. Doing daily kegels can even help you bounce back from pregnancy or control those little squirts of pee that sneak out when you laugh or sneeze, better known as incontinence.

Kegel repetitions work to tighten the muscles of the pelvic floor and vaginal walls. Though science has long busted the myth that lots of amazing sex or multiple partners will forever leave you loose, the pelvic muscles can lose their tone and strength over time, just like the rest of your body when you cheat on your fitness routine for too long. If you’ve given birth, you’ll also notice a change in the tightness of your vaginal muscles.

All this stuff is totally normal, but your health and pleasure depend on physical fitness to keep your insides in tip-top shape. When those downstairs muscles are properly primed, you’ll enjoy stronger orgasms and more internal pleasure during penetration.

Adding some Kegels to your repertoire is like eating a whole box of chocolate-covered cherries after your regular workout (except orgasms are way better for your body than processed sugars).

Let’s get you started with an easy-peasy Kegel routine, some goodies to spice up your workout, and a little orgasmic game to throw in for motivation.

How the Heck Does a Kegel Work?

You can do a Kegel from wherever you’re sitting or laying down, and that’s what makes them pretty much awesome. Simply clench your vaginal muscles together, kind of like when you’re holding in a fart (yes, really, that’s it!). You’ll feel your butt cheeks and thighs clench up at the same time. To check that you’re doing it right, use those same muscles to stop the flow of urine the next time you’re on the toilet. If the stream stops, you’re doing it right.

Now clench and hold, and see how long you can keep those muscles flexed. Ideally, aim for 5-10 seconds clenched, and then release. Congrats! You’ve done your first Kegel.

Ready, Get Set, Vagina Reps!

Keeping up with your Kegels is no different from any other fitness routine. You’ve got to stick with it on the daily, but thankfully you don’t have to hit the gym. You can do the ol’ squeeze-and-release while sitting at the office, watching a movie, or anywhere that allows you some down time to yourself.

For beginners, start by clenching for 5 seconds, relaxing for 5 seconds, and then repeating this pattern 10 times in sets of 3. Work your way up to clenching for 10 seconds and then relaxing for 10, also aiming for 3 sets of 10 reps.

Twist It Up With Some “Exercise Equipment”

You’ll eventually want to add some resistance to move up to the next level, or maybe you could use a little coaching to get it right. There are all sorts of sexy workout toys to guide your routine or add some light weights to build that kitty into a fierce, dildo-crushing jaguar. (Ok, we’re kidding, you probably won’t crush your sex toy, but your partner will definitely feel the difference.)

Bloom by We-Wibe

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We-Vibe’s luxurious Bloom is for the Kegel-ciser who wants it all. Bloom’s smart phone app guides you through your workout like a mini personal trainer. You can even swap out the weights to match your endurance level. Those 10 rumbly vibrations keep you motivated and on track for success.

 

Pussy Playballs Kegel Training Set by Rianne S

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Take your Kegel toys on the go with this ultra girly kit from fashion-forward brand Rianne S. The Pussy Playballs are basic Kegel weights disguised as adorable accessories in their coral-pink cosmetic bag. Each of the 4 balls adds on a little more weight, making it easy to step up your workout anytime.

 

Body & Soul Entice Kegel Balls

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These easy-to-remove Kegel balls keep it super basic, and they’re perfect for beginners on a budget. The stretchy silicone string and smooth, polished plastic balls help you figure out just how to wrap your v-muscles around their first workout toy.

 

Fantasy for Her Remote Kegel Exercise-Her

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If the duo-ball shape doesn’t do it for you, these Fantasy for Her Kegel balls are designed like a tear drop and made just as much for orgasms as exercise. Ten vibration modes take you through a whirlwind workout routine, which we’re pretty sure is going to wind up going south into climax land pretty quickly. You can even use this versatile piece of strength training equipment as an external bullet vibe.

 

Kegel Your Way to an Orgasmic Workout

Once you’ve gotten the kick of Kegel-ing, now comes the fun and games. You can combine your self-pleasure sessions with your daily down-there workout to add in a little reward – orgasms!

Choose a Kegel toy that vibrates as you squeeze, and as you go about your reps, notice how the vibrations ripple through your sacred space. Feel those heavenly vibes stimulate your g-spot and rumble up through your clitoris as you clench. Move your mindset from weightlifting champ to masturbation mode, and enjoy the subtle sensations of the toy as it rocks inside you.

Once you’ve gotten through your usual round of reps, you’ll be all worked up and ready to reach the finish line. Keep going with a few more reps of clench-and-release (or start your Kegel-ciser’s program from the beginning), but this time, slowly massage your clitoris as the Kegel toy’s vibrations bring you to the brink. Hold off for as long as you can, savoring the uniquely subtle pleasure of this deliciously gentle yet deep self-love technique.

When you’re ready, let yourself climax as the Kegel toy gushes forth another 10 second rep of vibration. In this tuned-in state, you’ll feel every last wave as your orgasm matches the toy’s burst of vibes.

Now who said working out has to suck?


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Think Pink: Your Vibrator Purchase Benefits Living Beyond Breast Cancer

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Inspire is a collection of thoughtfully designed products aimed at improving the lives of women on their journey for heightened sexual experiences.

A portion of proceeds from Inspire products always benefits Living Beyond Breast Cancer (LBBC), a non-profit that provides programs and services to those affected by breast cancer. In honor of breast cancer awareness month, the manufacturer of the line, CalExotics, is doubling their regular donation! Double the proceeds from each sale of Inspire will go to LBBC to continue the fight and help women take control of their sexual health.

Here are some of the Inspire items we here at IndigoHoney.com love the most. Like all of our powered items, they are all rechargeable, waterproof, and backed by a manufacturer’s warranty:


 

Inspire Flickering Intimate Arouser
Inspire Flickering Intimate Arouser

This oscillating arouser was designed to enhance intimate sensitivity, and offers 10 functions of vibration, pulsation and escalation. The ergonomically curved handle ends in a silky silicone cup that houses a soft flickering tongue-like tip for incredible sensations and full-contact arousal.

Inspire Vibrating G-Wand Bendable Massager
Inspire Vibrating G-Wand Bendable Massager

The Vibrating G-Wand offers a bulbous tip to strengthen the pelvic floor, and 10 functions of vibration, pulsation and escalation to help increase circulation and blood flow. The shaft flexes and bends for multi-directional positioning, making sure that you’ll always hit the right spot.

Inspire Vibrating Ultimate Wand
Inspire Vibrating Ultimate Wand

The Ultimate Wand is a vibrating massager you can use to increase circulation and decrease muscle pain anywhere on the body, as well as an intimately sensual personal stimulator. Dressed in premium silicone, it offers 10 functions of vibration, pulsation and escalation.

Inspire Silicone Dilator Kit
Inspire Silicone Dilator Kit

Dilator therapy is an at-home treatment known to restore and revive vaginal strength and comfort by gradually allowing the user to comfortably reduce pelvic floor muscle tension by training those muscles to relax. The Inspire Dilator Kit contains a range of different sized dilators to allow for appropriate size and progression of treatment over time at your own pace.


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5 Steps to a Healthy and Orgasmic Pelvic Floor from Kinkly

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Takeaway: Taking care of your pelvic floor could lead to the best orgasms of your life.

 

The pelvic floor.

You’ve probably heard this term and it certainly doesn’t sound sexy. However, this area of your body is key to sexual health, sexual performance and your enjoyment of sex.

Now I’ve got your attention, right? Here we’ll take a look at the pelvic floor, how it works and what you can do to keep yours as healthy – and orgasmic – as possible.

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Hooking Up? 4 Things You Should Bring With You for a Successful Hook Up

By Tiffy Kink (guest Sex Blogger/ Sex Toy Reviewer) of Aquakink.com

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Hookups are meant be an exciting new adventure that can be fun and pleasure-filled for both parties involved. However, if you fail to plan, you plan to fail –  Meaning, you may not get to enjoy your hookup the way you want to if you don’t bring the right stuff.

So here is a list of 4 things you should bring with you that can help lead to a successful hook-up.

1 – Consent and a Positive Attitude

Of course it’s a given that you’re going to hookup with someone that consent is already assumed right?

But consent is not just about meeting up and getting’ it on. It’s also about all the stuff in between. The different styles of sex you or your partner may want to have or new things they or you may want to try that may be unfamiliar.

Consent is also about having a clear line of communication and not being afraid to let your partner know what you want, when you want it, how you want it, and when you have had enough. Consent is the most important aspect to a successful hookup.

2 – Condoms

Another given, especially if you’re hooking up with someone and you don’t know their status or you do know their status.

Condoms are great for protection against pregnancy, STD’s, and STI’s. Picking out condoms can be a little tricky if you don’t know the size of your partner, he is well-endowed, or you just don’t know what he likes.

When in doubt, ask your partner what condoms he likes or simply ask him to buy some. No shame in asking.

Here are my condom recommendation(s).

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3 – Lube

Lube makes everything sexier.

It makes sex more slippery (in a good way of course!), more comfortable, and even more delicious. Adding lube to sex just makes things better. Adding too much lube on the other hand, can make things sticky and too slippery to enjoy the all fun. So always remember the golden rule: Always start with a little, then add more if needed.

Here are my lube recommendations.

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4 – A Vibrator

Sex toys are great for spicing things up in the bedroom or wherever you plan to get it on.

Vibrators are great for adding some extra stimulation to you and your partner’s favorite pleasure zones or even experiencing new sensations and finding new sweet spots together.

Here are my personal recommendations:

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Always remember that having a positive attitude usually leads to getting a positive outcome. Keeping the door open for communication and open-mindedness is key. Know your limits and don’t be afraid to express them to your partner. Always practice safe sex.

*If you liked what you read, you can read more of Tiffy Kink’s work at Aquakink.com


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According To Science, Women Enjoy Sex More Than Men Do

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You read that right.

This may come as a surprise to both sexes, but compared to guys, women tend to win the orgasm lottery. At least that’s the finding of a study conducted by Concordia research and published last month in the lyrically named Socioaffective Neuroscience & Psychology journal.

Concordia’s findings were that variety is the spice of a woman’s bedroom life. Unlike men, who are limited to the same old, same old when it comes to the big O, women have remarkable opportunities to get all shivery and shaky from a number of sources.

The study’s authors looked at vaginal and clitoral orgasms. Whether one or the other is real has been debated by sex researchers for years. According to the release that broke down the study results, researchers arrived “at a new understanding of the female orgasm that incorporates the external clitoral glans, the internal region around the G-spot, the cervix and sensory stimulation of non-genital areas such as the nipples.”

Senior study author Jim Pfaus was quoted as saying that through “experience, stimulation of one or all of these triggering zones are integrated into a ‘whole’ set of sensory inputs, movements, body positions, arousals and cues related to context.”

According to Pfaus, the combined inputs “is what reliably induces pleasure and orgasm during masturbation and intercourse” for women.

Even more interesting, Pfaus and his co-authors concluded that the elements that mix to make that magic moment can change over time “as women experience different kinds of orgasms from different types of sensations in different contexts and with different partners.”

Pfaus emphasized that their findings underscored that the assumption a woman’s orgasm is some variation on the male version is dead wrong. “Unlike men,” said Pfaus, “women can have a remarkable variety of orgasmic experiences, which evolve” over time. The landmarks on a map of sweet spots all across a woman’s body “is not etched in stone,” Pfaus said, “but rather is an ongoing process” and determined through experimentation and discovery.

 

Women Enjoy Sex More Than Men Do was originally published on Maxim.


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These Are the New Orgasm Statistics Every Woman Should See

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Are you not having an orgasm every time you have sex? You’re not alone.

Only 57% of women usually have orgasms when they have sex with a partner, according to new data from Cosmopolitan‘s Female Orgasm Survey. Now compare that to their partners, who are apparently orgasming 95% of the time, the women say. Notice how far apart those are?

This recent study, which surveyed more than 2,300 women ages 18 to 40, captures what a lot of women are realizing about their orgasms: There are still clear obstacles standing between women and the pleasure they deserve.

Mechanical issues

Simple as it may sound, many women’s orgasm problems can be chalked up to bad mechanics. Fifty percent of women said their partners were almost there but just couldn’t quite bring them home. Thirty-eight percent of women claimed there wasn’t enough clitoral stimulation, and 35% of women said they weren’t getting the right kind of clitoral stimulation.

These stats are unsurprising when you realize how essential the clitoris is in helping a woman achieve orgasm. While percentages are hard to pin down, experts say most women need to have their clitoris stimulated in order to orgasm; and yet the clit remains a mysterious body part. In a 2005 study of 833 undergraduate students, women and men were just as likely to mislabel the clitoris on a diagram.

Having better knowledge of the parts can indeed help the mechanics. A 2014 study from the Journal of Sexual Medicine found that lesbian women orgasm about 75% of the time during sex with a consistent partner. Notice how high that is? The researchers concluded that homosexual women are more comfortable with their bodies and their partners’, and thus able to achieve orgasm more easily, as reported by Mic‘s Erin Brodwin.

Physically, we can also help things along by relaxing: According to the Cosmo survey, 32% of women are getting caught up in their own head and getting focused on how they look in bed.

Getting the attention we deserve

While 78% of women believed their partners cared about their orgasm, 72% of women still experienced a time when their partner climaxed but made no attempt to help them finish. Ouch.

Leaving a woman high and dry might come from a lack of mechanical understanding, but the orgasm gap also reflects how our cultural views of men’s versus women’s pleasure. After all, it takes much longer on average for a woman to orgasm (up to 20 or even 40 minutes, some experts say), and yet the standard expectation is that sex ends when a man comes.

That’s one reason why, according to Cosmo‘s survey, up to 67% of women have ever faked an orgasm. “It’s partly social; our culture gives more value to behaviors that result in orgasm for men,” Indiana University sex researcher Debby Herbenick told Slate.

It’s important to remember the responsibility for —and entitlement to — pleasure isn’t on one partner, but rather on both. “Chances are, people aren’t communicating in bed about what works for them,” Michelle Ruiz, senior editor at Cosmopolitan, told Mic.

It’s in our hands

So how are women actually achieving orgasm, if they’re not always coming from their partners? Often, it’s on their own. The survey found that 39% of women reach most of their orgasms through use of a hand or sex toy.

“Don’t just expect someone to magically know how to please you,” said Ruiz. “Champion your own orgasm as well! Masturbate and experiment on your own and find out what turns you on, so you can let a partner know. Then, let a partner know.”

With more and more toys and tools for women to achieve orgasm hitting the market, and more conversations opening up about where female pleasure actually comes from, there’s never been a better time to work towards closing the orgasm gap. After all, if the statistics are right, it’s in men’s and women’s hands.

 

These Are the New Orgasm Statistics Every Woman Should See was originally posted on Mic.

 

8 Things Every Woman Should Know About Her Libido

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Here today, gone tomorrow — your libido can be puzzling, to say the least.

But that ebb and flow is completely natural, says Lauren Streicher, MD, clinical associate professor of obstetrics and gynecology at Northwestern Memorial Hospital in Chicago: “All women go through periods when they feel especially frisky, as well as times when they just seem to have lost their mojo.” Read on to learn about the many reasons your libido may come and go, and how to find it when you miss it. Curious about aphrodisiacs? We’ve got those too, from strawberries to Savasana.

The brain is your biggest sex organ

Your brain is where the spark starts. Five of the most important areas:

Ventral striatum: A 2012 fMRI study found that this area lights up when you see something lust-inducing (like, say, Idris Elba):

  • Amygdala: Some research suggests that your sex drive may be proportional to the size of your amygdala, the almond-shaped emotion center of your brain.
  • Hypothalamus: When you experience something rewarding (such as a great kiss), this part of the brain produces dopamine, a neurotransmitter that’s critical for pleasure and motivation.
  • Cerebral cortex: The brain’s outer layer of gray matter is responsible for higher functions, including thoughts about sex. It triggers a chain reaction that ultimately leads to the production of sex hormones.
  • Pituitary: This gland secretes luteinizing hormone, which stimulates your ovaries to produce estrogen. It also makes the “mothering” hormone prolactin — typically during pregnancy and breastfeeding — which lowers libido.

Desire may increase with age

A 2010 study showed that as a woman’s fertility wanes in her 30s and 40s, her sexual fantasies become more frequent and steamier (!) and her sex drive becomes stronger overall.

Researchers suspect it’s an evolutionary trick, designed to up your odds of procreating by encouraging you to do the deed more often. Life circumstances play a role, too, says Dr. Streicher, who wrote Sex Rx: Hormones, Health, and Your Best Sex Ever. “You’re more comfortable with your partner and less worried about contraception,” she explains.

Of course, there’s also the confidence that comes with age: A large 2015 survey discovered that most women who find sex more pleasurable as they get older credit their improved body image. After all, there’s nothing like feeling sexy to put you in the mood.

The pink pill has perks—and risks

Last year, the FDA approved Addyi, the first-ever Rx sex drug for women. Unlike its male counterpart, Viagra, which works by improving blood flow to the genital region, Addyi is thought to boost desire by altering the balance of neurotransmitters (like serotonin and dopamine) in a woman’s brain.

Alas, the daily pill, approved for premenopausal women, has a range of unsexy possible side effects — including nausea, dizziness, and sleepiness — and alcohol isn’t allowed while you’re on it.

For postmenopausal women, there are other options that may help increase libido, such as the topical cream ON Libido, or the daily wellness supplement Hot Rawks.

Stress kills your sex drive

“Lab research has shown that women experiencing stress, as evidenced by increased cortisol, have less response to erotic cues,” says Sheryl Kingsberg, PhD, chief of the division of behavioral medicine at University Hospitals Case Medical Center in Cleveland.

“Stress is a tremendous distracter,” she explains. “It takes away from your ability to focus and be fully present.” But distraction isn’t the only factor. Tension can take a toll on a relationship, too. It’s not surprising that a Monmouth University study found that couples placed in stressful situations behaved more poorly to each other. “Disdain and anger are definitely not aphrodisiacs,” says Dr. Streicher.

Stress can also prevent you from sleeping enough, leaving you too pooped to get busy. The good news: A 2015 study revealed that just one extra hour of shut-eye a night leads to a 14 percent boost in libido.

Some medications can affect sex drive

Some meds can make your sex drive take a nosedive. If you suspect that any of these drugs are to blame, ask your doctor about switching to an alternative.

  • Birth control pills: They lower levels of active estrogen and testosterone, explains Dr. Streicher. Progestin-only pills and IUDs are just as effective at preventing pregnancy and don’t tamp down libido.
  • SSRIS: These antidepressants are known libido busters, but a different type of drug — bupropion — is less likely to affect sex drive.
  • Blood pressure meds: In a French study, 41 percent of postmenopausal women taking these drugs reported lowered sexual desire. Beta-blockers, often used to treat hypertension, are common culprits. You may want to consider trying valsartan, another type of blood pressure med that has actually been shown to boost libido.
  • Antihistamines: These drugs tend to dry out mucus-producing cells everywhere in the body, including the vagina, says Dr. Streicher. But the side effect is less common with second-generation antihistamines (like Zyrtec and Claritin). There are nondrug allergy treatments as well, such as immunotherapy shots and pills, and of course the use of a personal lubricant always helps.

Yoga can help

Can Downward Dog really up your libido? When researchers had women do an hour of yoga daily, they found that nearly 75 percent were more satisfied with their sex life after 12 weeks.

It makes sense, given the relaxing effects of yoga. “By facilitating deeper breathing and calming the autonomic nervous system, yoga can help direct more blood flow to the pelvic organs,” says Timothy McCall, MD, author of Yoga as Medicine. So we asked yoga teacher Kate Hanley, author of A Year of Daily Calm, for three lust-stimulating poses.

Her top picks: Cobra (it might trigger a surge in testosterone, according to a 2004 study), Extended Side Angle (it stretches out your pelvis), and Savasana (it quiets the chatter in your mind).

If your libido is MIA, see your MD

It’s tempting to dismiss a dwindling sex drive, chalking it up to a hectic month (or year)—but any significant drop that lasts more than a few weeks is worth getting checked out, says Dr. Streicher.“You may have an underlying medical condition,” she explains.

At the top of the list of possibilities: hypothyroidism, which can affect the production of sex hormones, and depression, which interferes with feel-good neurotransmitters. The problem could also be hypertension or even undiagnosed type 2 diabetes.

The fact is, virtually any chronic condition can wreak havoc on your libido, says Dr. Streicher, because “your body has little energy left for anything else.” If you’ve lost your sex drive, see your doc, she urges. The right treatment could get you back on track.

Certain foods can help

Spice things up! Health’s nutritionist, Cynthia Sass, RD, serves up five tasty aphrodisiacs.

  • Berries: Blueberries and strawberries both contain an antioxidant called anthocyanin, which boosts circulation, creating a “natural Viagra effect,” explains Sass. One cup a week can also help prevent high blood pressure, according to 2011 research.
  • Red wine: It’s loaded with polyphenols, which help improve blood flow. Women who enjoy a glass or two of red wine a day report more sexual desire than teetotalers, according to a study done in Italy (naturally).
  • Watermelon: Thank citrulline, a nutrient that sets off a chain reaction to relax blood vessels and increase circulation to all parts of your body, according to research from Texas A&M University.
  • Chickpeas: The humble garbanzo bean is a terrific source of zinc, which has been shown to help regulate testosterone levels in men, says Sass. For a date-night appetizer, serve him a batch of roasted chickpeas or some roasted veggies with hummus.
  • Licorice: A study by the Smell & Taste Treatment and Research Foundation in Chicago found that the scent of Good & Plenty licorice candy, when mixed with the smell of cucumber, triggered a 13 percent increase in vaginal blood flow. Go figure!

8 Things Every Woman Should Know About Her Libido originally appeared on Health.com.

The Inspire Collection Is Aimed At Women’s Sexual Health

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Inspire is an exciting collection of thoughtfully-designed products aimed at improving the lives of women on their journey for heightened experiences.

The positive effects of taking care of one’s sexual health are well-documented and include improving vaginal strength, decreasing physical discomfort during intercourse and helping to strengthen the pelvic floor muscles.

All Inspire products are:

  • Waterproof
  • Made of Premium Silicone
  • Body-Safe, unscented, and phthalate-free
  • Have a 1-year warranty

All Inspire powered items are also:

  • USB rechargeable with included charging cord
  • 10 Functions of vibration, pulsation, and escalation

 

A portion of proceeds from Inspire products benefit Living Beyond Breast Cancer, a charity that provides programs and services to people whose lives have been impacted by breast cancer

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Flickering Intimate Arouser

Flickering Arouser

 

This oscillating arouser was designed to enhance intimate sensitivity, and offers 10 functions of vibration, pulsation and escalation. The ergonomically curved handle ends in a silky silicone cup that houses a soft flickering tongue-like tip for incredible sensations and full-contact arousal.

The Flickering Intimate Arouser is USB rechargeable and waterproof for fun in & out of the water and easy cleanup.

  • Oscillating arouser to enhance intimate sensitivity
  • 10 functions of vibration, pulsation and escalation
  • Waterproof
  • Smooth, soft flickering tip for incredible sensations
  • Soft, Silicone cup for full-contact arousal
  • Ergonomically curved handle for ease of use
  • USB rechargeable (charging cord included)
  • Hold for 3 seconds to turn on or off
  • One Year Warranty provided by CalExotics

Silicone (arouser, button) and ABS (handle)

2.25” x 1.75” (arouser)

5.75” x 2” (overall)

 

 

Pulsing Intimate Arouser

Pulsing Arouser

 

This oscillating arouser was designed to enhance intimate sensitivity, and offers 10 functions of vibration, pulsation and escalation. The ergonomically curved handle is easy to hold, and ends in a silky silicone cup that houses smooth, soft nodules for added sensations and full-contact arousal.

The Pulsating Intimate Arouser is USB rechargeable and waterproof for fun in & out of the water and easy cleanup.

  • Oscillating arouser to enhance intimate sensitivity
  • 10 functions of vibration, pulsation and escalation
  • Waterproof
  • Smooth, soft nodules for added sensations
  • Soft, Silicone cup for full-contact arousal
  • Ergonomically curved handle for ease of use
  • USB rechargeable (charging cord included)
  • Hold for 3 seconds to turn on or off
  • One Year Warranty provided by CalExotics

Silicone (arouser, button) and ABS (handle)

2.25” x 1.75” (arouser)

5.75” x 2” (overall)

 

 

Silicone Dilator Kit

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Dilator therapy is an at-home treatment used prevent and treat problems associated with painful vaginal penetration due to shortened or narrowed vaginal canal resulting from gynecological surgery, pelvic floor muscle spasms, reduced vaginal elasticity, Dyspareunia or difficult/ painful intercourse, Vaginismus or involuntary/painful pelvic floor spasm with attempted vaginal penetration, as well as psychological problems and sexual health issues associated with vaginal penetration.

This therapy is known to restore and revive vaginal strength and comfort by gradually allowing the user to comfortably reduce pelvic floor muscle tension by training those muscles to relax.

Dilator sets contain a range of different sized dilators to allow for appropriate size and progression of treatment over time.

When used appropriately, potential benefits of dilator therapy can include:

  • Improved physical comfort with sexual intercourse after pelvic floor surgery with scarring and narrowing and/or shortening of the vagina
  • Allowing pain free sexual penetration by training pelvic floor muscle relaxation
  • Reducing pelvic floor muscle tension or spasm with vaginismus
  • Overcoming  fear of vaginal penetration
  • Prevention of adhesions/fibrosis from forming during and after pelvic radiotherapy
  • Allowing for use of tampons
  • Facilitating ease of gynecological examination.

The Inspire Silicone Dilator Kit contains 5 sizes of tapered dilators for gradual dilation, each ergonomically curved for ease of use, complete with a easy-to-use finger loop at the end.

  • May restore and revive vaginal strength and comfort
  • 5-piece dilator kit for gradual dilation
  • Ergonomically curved for ease of use
  • Easy to use finger loop, or may be used with massager (not included)
  • One Year Warranty provided by CalExotics

100% Silicone

3” x .5″ (dilator 1)

3.5” x .75” (dilator 2)

4.25” x .75” (dilator 3)

5” x 1” (dilator 4)

5.5” x 1.25” (dilator 5)

 

 

Vibrating G-Wand

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The Vibrating G-Wand offers a bulbous tip to strengthen the pelvic floor, and 10 functions of vibration, pulsation and escalation to help increase circulation and blood flow.

The shaft flexes and bends for multi-directional positioning, and is dressed in premium silicone that’s body-safe, unscented, and phthalate-free.

The Vibrating G-Wand is USB rechargeable, and waterproof for fun in & out of the water and easy cleanup.

  • Vibrating wand with bulbous tip to strengthen pelvic floor
  • 10 functions of vibration, pulsation and escalation
  • Waterproof
  • Premium Silicone with 100% play area
  • Flexes and bends for multi-directional positioning
  • Security travel lock feature
  • Instant on/off
  • USB rechargeable (charging cord included)
  • One Year Warranty provided by CalExotics

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7.25” x 1.25”

 

 

Vibrating Remote Breast Massager

 

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This ergonomically curved, lightweight body-forming breast massager fits comfortably in your bra to massage away discomfort. The vibrations increase circulation to help increase blood flow and reduce breasts soreness, pain, and tenderness.

Offering 10 functions of vibration, pulsation and escalation, plus 5 independent speeds for each function, it’s easy to find the right mode for relief. A discreetly designed compact remote with a built-in mirror lets you control the intensity of your massage while wearing your Breast Massager, and you can also use the button located on the massager to control the vibrations.

Constructed of pure seamless silicone, the rechargeable Inspire Vibrating Remote Breast Massager is waterproof for fun in and out of the water and easy cleanup.

  • Massages to increase blood circulation and may relieve soreness
  • Ergonomically curved, lightweight body forming breast massager fits comfortably in bra
  • 10 functions of vibration, pulsation and escalation, plus 5 independent speeds for each function
  • Waterproof
  • Discreetly designed compact remote with built-in mirror
  • Use with or without remote control
  • 16.5’/5m range
  • EC-R+TTE certificate included
  • USB rechargeable (charging cord included)
  • One Year Warranty provided by CalExotics

Silicone (massager) and ABS (remote)

4.75” x 2.5” (each massager)

12” x 2.5” x .75” (overall)

2.75” (remote)

 

 

Vibrating Remote Intimate Teaser

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This ergonomically curved, body forming massager fits comfortably in your panty to accelerate feminine arousal, and can be used with or without the included compact remote that’s discreetly designed with built-in mirror.

Offering 10 functions of vibration, pulsation and escalation, plus 5 independent speeds for each function, the USB rechargeable Vibrating Remote Intimate Teaser is waterproof for fun in & out of the water and easy cleanup.

  • Teaser to accelerate feminine arousal
  • Ergonomically curved, body forming massager fits comfortably in panty
  • 10 functions of vibration, pulsation and escalation, plus 5 independent speeds for each function
  • Waterproof
  • Discreetly designed compact remote with built-in mirror
  • Use with or without remote control
  • 16.5’ range
  • EC-R+TTE certificate included
  • USB rechargeable (charging cord included)
  • One Year Warranty provided by CalExotics

Silicone (teaser)

ABS (remote)

4” x 2” (teaser)

2.75” (remote)

 

Vibrating Remote Kegel Exerciser

 

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Kegel training helps to tighten, strengthen and revive pelvic control. A good routine can help you prevent or control urinary incontinence and other pelvic floor problems, as well as allow for easier, stronger, and more frequent orgasms.

The USB rechargeable Vibrating Remote Kegel Exerciser adds fun to your training session with the added pleasure of 10 functions of vibration, pulsation and escalation, plus incremental speed control. Dressed in premium silicone with plushy soft tip for superior comfort and featuring an easy retrieval cord, the Vibrating Remote Kegel Exerciser may be used with or without the included petite remote control, and is waterproof for fun in & out of the water and easy cleanup.

  • Helps to tighten, strengthen and revive pelvic control
  • 10 functions of vibration, pulsation and escalation, plus incremental speed control
  • Waterproof
  • Premium Silicone with plushy soft tip for superior comfort
  • Easy retrieval cord
  • Kegel exerciser may be used with or without remote control
  • 16.5’ range
  • EC-R+TTE certificate included
  • USB rechargeable (charging cord included)
  • One Year Warranty provided by CalExotics

Silicone (exerciser, buttons) and ABS with PU Cote (remote)

3” x 1.5” (exerciser)

7.5” x 1.5” (overall exerciser)

3” x 1.5” (remote)

 

 

Vibrating Ultimate Wand

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The Ultimate Wand is a vibrating massager you can use to increase circulation and decrease muscle pain anywhere on the body, as well as an intimately sensual personal stimulator.

Dressed in premium silicone offering 10 functions of vibration, pulsation and escalation, the USB rechargeable Ultimate Wand is waterproof for fun in & out of the water and easy cleanup.

  • Vibrating personal massager to increase circulation
  • 10 functions of vibration, pulsation and escalation
  • Waterproof
  • Premium Silicone with 100% play area
  • USB rechargeable (charging cord included)
  • Security travel lock feature
  • Instant on/off
  • One Year Warranty provided by CalExotics

Silicone

8.5” x .175”

 

 

Weighted Silicone Kegel Training Kit

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Kegel training helps to tighten, strengthen and revive pelvic control. A good routine can help you prevent or control urinary incontinence and other pelvic floor problems, as well as allow for easier, stronger, and more frequent orgasms.

This silicone training kit is ergonomically designed to tighten and tone Kegel muscles by giving those muscles something to focus on. The 3 pieces are different sizes and weights, allowing you to gradually increase your pelvic floor strength at your own pace.

  • To help strengthen and revitalize pelvic muscles
  • 3-piece Kegel training set with easy retrieval cords
  • Ergonomically designed to tighten and tone Kegel muscles
  • One Year Warranty provided by CalExotics

Silicone

Small exerciser – 80g

2” x 1.25”, 5.5” x 1.25” (overall)

Medium exerciser – 60g

3.25” x 1.25”, 6.5” x 1.25” (overall)

Large exerciser – 40g

3.75” x 1.5″, 7” x 1.5” (overall)

How Your Pelvic Floor Muscles Affect Sex (And Other Things)

Plus what you can do if you have a weak pelvic floor.

This was originally posted on The Huffington Post Australia, and is chock full of great info.

How Your Pelvic Floor Muscles

It has to be said, Sex And The City taught us a decent amount about the intimate lives of women. Without it how would be know about ugly sex, teeth placement and Kegel exercises? (We’ll leave you to Google the first two.)

Kegel exercises, AKA strengthening the pelvic floor, is something Samantha kindly educated Charlotte on. But what exactly is it? And is it important?

“The pelvic floor is a sling of muscles which rest at the base of the pelvis,” Kathryn Warr, Principal Physiotherapist and Founder of IvoryRose Physiotherapy for Her told The Huffington Post Australia.

“These muscles stretch like a bit of a trampoline, running from the pubic bone to the tailbone and are made up of two distinct layers — a superficial layer and a deep layer.”

Cool, a mini trampoline somewhere near the vagina. And it’s there to make sex feel good, right? Not quite.

“There are multiple purposes of the pelvic floor muscles as a unit, such as lower back support, sexual function, bladder and bowel control and pelvic organ support. Basically, if we didn’t have these muscles at the base of our pelvis, all of our pelvic organs would fall out,” Warr said.

So it’s not just about sex, though it’s important to understand its purpose during the act as it can increase sensation.

“It is time to drop the taboo culture and start talking. There is a sense of normalizing the whole thing which I understand can make people feel better. However, just because something is common does not make it normal. Confidence is empowering, it is hard to be confident when you are wetting your pants!”

“Sexual response is incredibly multifactorial however, one component can be the influence of the pelvic floor,” Warr said.

“It has been suggested that learning to squeeze the pelvic floor during sex may contribute to sensation. If you think about it, the more ‘in touch’ you can get with these muscles, i.e. how they work, how to squeeze them and how to relax them, the more sensation you may be able to experience. I’ve had some women tell me that after paying more attention to the control and coordination of their pelvic floor muscles, they have found new heights to their sensation and awareness during sex.”

Sex aside, it’s a fact of life that a woman will likely experience a weakened pelvic floor later in life, particularly if she’s a mum.

“Females can experience pelvic floor weakness for a number of reasons, such as things like trauma during childbirth where the pelvic floor muscles may be torn or injured. If this was to happen it normally takes place during the second stage of labour when mum is pushing and is much more common with assisted deliveries where things like forceps are used. With that said, even just carrying a pregnancy can weaken these muscles so it is not all about the birth as such,” Warr said.

“Also, it’s really important to understand that it is not just women who are having babies that are at risk. Other things such as constipation, years of straining on the loo, and poor technique during heavy weight lifting can also lead to pelvic floor weakness. This is because there can be a great deal of pressure inside the abdomen during these activities which can lead to weakening of the muscles over time.”

Warr emphasis that it’s important to get confirmation if you think you may have a weak pelvic floor.

“I say this because there are a number of women that we see whom are convinced they have weakness, when in fact their muscles are actually too tight (leading to shortening of the fibers). If any muscle in the body is too tight and unable to lengthen, we know that this can effectively render that muscle useless. In the case of pelvic floor, these women can have symptoms of ‘weakness’ such as leaking and can also experience pain with things like sex,” Warr said.

“Here is where I would say that a physiotherapist who has a special interest and experience in this area is invaluable. They will be able to assess the muscles properly and guide the woman through a strength and coordination program. If required, women can also be shown how to use of things like vaginal weights and other pelvic floor specific feedback tools. These tools are great to help to monitor their progress.”

Research shows there are a number of women out there trying to do their pelvic floor exercises by reading a pamphlet.

“As you can imagine, this has limited feedback. As a result, unfortunately many are getting the technique completely wrong. Understanding your anatomy and getting feedback is key,” Warr said.

Signs that you may have a weak pelvic floor (or in fact, the muscles may be too tight) include bladder control issues, accidentally passing wind, pain in the pelvis and painful sex.

“This topic has been viewed as taboo for many decades despite women all around the world experiencing a variety of pelvic floor symptoms. Whether that is the woman who runs to the bathroom in the middle of a gym class versus the other end of the spectrum, the woman who is biting the pillow during sex because she is in so much pain,” Warr said.

“It is time to drop the taboo culture and start talking. I see these ‘band aid’ products such as advertisements for pads, guiding a thought process of “OK this is now my lot in life”, and we can become impartial to it. There is a sense of normalizing the whole thing which I understand can make people feel better. However, just because something is common does not make it normal. Nor is it something that can’t be helped. Confidence is empowering, it is hard to be confident when you are wetting your pants!”

Hear hear! The take home advice? Do something now! Go see your doctor,  seek out a specialist, or simply try some at-home Kegel training routines.

 

4 Things Nobody Tells You About Sex After 35

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I thought this article from Oprah by  Alice Oglethorpe was pretty great, so I thought I’d repost it for you ladies:


 

You may think sex stays the same until menopause, but shifts that start around your mid-30s can have a huge impact on what goes on in between the sheets—for better and for, well, not so good.

The “Dirty-30s” Aren’t Guaranteed

We’ve all heard that women hit their sexual peak starting in their late 30s and extending up to their early 40s, but that may not be true for everyone.

Why: “Many women are surprised to hear that their testosterone, the hormone of desire, starts to decline as early as in their 20s,” says Leah S. Millheiser, MD, director of the Female Sexual Medicine Program at Stanford Health Care. “But every woman experiences a drop of up to 50 percent in her testosterone levels between her 20s and 50s.” You know about the factor that’s coming next, but it’s worth a reminder: The stresses of life in your 30s (work, family, friends and when, exactly, are you supposed to fit in exercise again?) also interfere with this in-my-sexual-prime ideal. “Women are sexually plastic, meaning their desire is more impacted by outside factors than men’s,” says Millheiser. In other words, when life gets crazy, your sex drive goes to sleep.

(Indigo Honey Tip: ON Libido can help boost your T levels naturally.)

 

There May Be an Unexpected Culprit Causing Your Dryness

It’s not just your naturally declining testosterone—it’s your choice of contraception.

Why: You’re more likely to use some form of birth control as you progress from your 20s to your 40s, according to a report from the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, which found that 75.3 percent of women 40 to 44 years old were using contraception, compared with 69.7 percent of 30-to-34-year-olds and 58.3 percent of 20-to-24-year-olds. If it happens to be the pill (28 percent of all women using birth control opt for that method, found the same CDC report), your testosterone is taking another hit. “Birth control pills stop you from ovulating, which lowers testosterone, and also increase a protein that binds testosterone, meaning there’s less of it freely flowing in your blood stream,” says Alyssa Dweck, MD, assistant clinical professor in the department of obstetrics, gynecology and reproductive science at Mount Sinai School of Medicine. “So you’ll feel dryer during sex, which can make it not-so-comfortable.” There’s a simple solution, though: add a lubricant to the mix. You can also talk to your gynecologist about switching to an IUD, which doesn’t have the same effect on testosterone levels.

(Indigo Honey Tip: Add a quality lubricant designed for women to supplement your natural moisture.)

 

The Magic Number Is Lower Than You Think

You can stop putting pressure on yourself to make time for twice- or thrice-weekly date nights.

Why: Couples reported peak happiness when they were having sex once per week, according to a recent study in Social Psychological and Personality Science. Researchers looked at data from more than 30,000 people and found that while having sex less frequently than that was linked to lower well-being, happiness leveled off at once a week—meaning twice-weekly sex didn’t make people twice as happy. So anytime you hear that sex gets less frequent as you get older and that that can put a strain on your relationship (hence the date nights), remember that once a week may be all you need.

 

That Thing You’re After Won’t Feel So Hard to Reach

Orgasms become easier for women as we age, according to results from the National Survey of Sexual Health and Behavior.

Why: Because by this point, you’ll have learned how to do it. “Men orgasm when they ejaculate—it’s more of a mechanical process—but when women orgasm their brains have to get into it,” says Dweck. “So many women in their 20s are still focusing on intercourse as a key to orgasming; it can take until your mid-30s to realize what combination of touch and thought process will get you where you want to go.”

(Indigo Honey Tip: Try a clitoral stimulating product to make it even easier to reach the big O.)

 

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