Kinkly’s 5 Tips for Finding That Elusive ‘Nipplegasm’


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Takeaway: Nipplegasms aren’t common, but even if you don’t make it all the way to O-town, playing with them can still be a lot of fun.


I’m sure you’ve heard of the elusive nipplegasm: the idea that a person can orgasm just from stimulation of the nipples. Not limited to a single gender, nipplegasms can be experienced by anyone with sensitive nipple tissue. Nipplegasms aren’t common, but even if you don’t make it all the way to O-town, playing with them can still be a lot of fun.

Some people find that nipple stimulation with the hands is enough stimulation for orgasm. If that’s you, that’s great! However, you wouldn’t be here if the idea of nipple toys didn’t appeal to you. Even if you’ve been unable to experience a nipplegasm before, you might want to see if sex toys can help make the experience hotter. Not only can some of these toys increase the sensitivity of the nipples, but they can provide hands-free stimulation of the nipples while you choose to focus on other areas. Here are some tips on how to zero-in on that elusive nipple orgasm.

Nipple Pumps

Suction feels fabulous on other sensitive areas, so why not try the nipples? Nipple pumps are pumping toys that can be used to create this sensation. With a hollow chamber pressed firmly onto the nipples, the suction pump is used to remove air from the chamber – which provides suction onto the nipples and helps engorge the nipple with blood. Much like the penis, a fully erect and fully engorged nipple tends to be more sensitive to any type of stimulation you want to give it.

Nipple suction toys
These vacuum nipple suckers are simple, inexpensive and can be sensational fun. Get them at Indigo Honey.


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10 Travel-friendly Sex Toys That Discreetly Fit In A Sunglasses Case

Exposed Nocturnal Bullet, Maia Jessi, and Avant Pride P1 in sunglasses case

As much as I love my gigantic dildos, they’re not the most practical toys to take with me when I’m on-the-go or visiting family. Sometimes, I have only a backpack to fit my belongings in for the week. And a bulky VixSkin Outlaw isn’t easy to hide in the off-chance that my parents snoop through my stuff. I know: I’m an adult, and that shouldn’t be happening. But it does happen. My mom is neurotic, and that’s the reality on the occasions where I visit her.

This list includes G-spot toys and external toys, all petite enough to fit inside my case meant for big sunglasses. The case physically protects them, conceals them, and makes them relatively uninteresting to people snooping. Plus, it’s easy to bury in the rest of my stuff.

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External clitoral bullet vibrators are especially easy-to-hide because they’re so tiny. That doesn’t mean you have to sacrifice power, though. The Blush Novelties Exposed Nocturnal bullet is 0.9″ wide and 4″ long, but it’s powerful enough for me to use through underwear and a pantiliner. It’s not the rumbliest or most quiet bullet, but it does offer near-Hitachi-level power in a small, pinpoint package. And it’s waterproof, so I can use it in the shower to drown out the loud vibrations.

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5 Tips for Buying Anal Beads (according to Kinkly)


Takeaway: Anal beads are one of the best toys out there for butt newbies – if you find the right set for you.


If you enjoy that wonderful, pleasurable sensation of the first bit of penetration during anal sex, anal beads are going to be your new favorite toy.

As a toy that basically consists of a strand of anal-safe beads, you can insert the beads, one by one, to experience that sensation over and over again. You also get to experience it on the way out!

Anal beads are well-loved by experienced players as well as beginners; the simplistic design makes it easy to go as far as you’d like and take as much time as you want.

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5 Steps to a Healthy and Orgasmic Pelvic Floor from Kinkly


Takeaway: Taking care of your pelvic floor could lead to the best orgasms of your life.


The pelvic floor.

You’ve probably heard this term and it certainly doesn’t sound sexy. However, this area of your body is key to sexual health, sexual performance and your enjoyment of sex.

Now I’ve got your attention, right? Here we’ll take a look at the pelvic floor, how it works and what you can do to keep yours as healthy – and orgasmic – as possible.

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Cosmo’s Sex Toy Picks for Fall


Want to know what’s hot and happening in the “personal massager” realm? Cosmo knows what’s up!

This Cute Lil’ Clamshell Ring

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This bright little vibrator is meant to be fit perfectly between your fingers to save toy cramps from hitting you in the moment. The rechargeable silicone vibe also features and 10 patterns, so you can bring it with you when you travel without getting bored.

Massager, MINI MARVELS, $60


This Ergonomic Clit Pump

Clit pump

This recharageable toy is meant to fit perfectly in your hand and is cute AF too. The tip is meant to create suction over your clitoris while the simulteneous vibration and suction takes you over the edge. It can hold up to an hour of charge, and comes with a special waterproof top sleeve that makes cleaning a breeze.

Rechargeable Clit Pump, $63


This Tongue-Shaped Vibrator

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Props to Cal Exotics for making a tongue-shaped vibrator as minimally creepy as it could be. This bright silicone toy is meant to simulate a licking tongue for those who love oral sex. It’s also fully waterproof and surprisingly quiet for how powerful it is.

Marvelous Flicker, $60


This article was originally posted on Cosmopolitan

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According To Science, Women Enjoy Sex More Than Men Do


You read that right.

This may come as a surprise to both sexes, but compared to guys, women tend to win the orgasm lottery. At least that’s the finding of a study conducted by Concordia research and published last month in the lyrically named Socioaffective Neuroscience & Psychology journal.

Concordia’s findings were that variety is the spice of a woman’s bedroom life. Unlike men, who are limited to the same old, same old when it comes to the big O, women have remarkable opportunities to get all shivery and shaky from a number of sources.

The study’s authors looked at vaginal and clitoral orgasms. Whether one or the other is real has been debated by sex researchers for years. According to the release that broke down the study results, researchers arrived “at a new understanding of the female orgasm that incorporates the external clitoral glans, the internal region around the G-spot, the cervix and sensory stimulation of non-genital areas such as the nipples.”

Senior study author Jim Pfaus was quoted as saying that through “experience, stimulation of one or all of these triggering zones are integrated into a ‘whole’ set of sensory inputs, movements, body positions, arousals and cues related to context.”

According to Pfaus, the combined inputs “is what reliably induces pleasure and orgasm during masturbation and intercourse” for women.

Even more interesting, Pfaus and his co-authors concluded that the elements that mix to make that magic moment can change over time “as women experience different kinds of orgasms from different types of sensations in different contexts and with different partners.”

Pfaus emphasized that their findings underscored that the assumption a woman’s orgasm is some variation on the male version is dead wrong. “Unlike men,” said Pfaus, “women can have a remarkable variety of orgasmic experiences, which evolve” over time. The landmarks on a map of sweet spots all across a woman’s body “is not etched in stone,” Pfaus said, “but rather is an ongoing process” and determined through experimentation and discovery.


Women Enjoy Sex More Than Men Do was originally published on Maxim.

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Five Habits Of Happy, Healthy Women — via Thought Catalog

@thompsonlxs_We have all heard it many times that happiness is an inside job, and as with any job, succeeding takes dedication, consistency and hard work. Today, I am sharing five unexpected ways happy, healthy women live their fullest and most productive lives. 1. She Has Relationship Check-Up’s. There is a saying that suggests that we…

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The Horrifying Day I Learned Vaginas Can Seal SHUT From Lack Of Use


Vaginal atrophy: It’s a real thing.

I used to really love sex. Like, there was a point in my life (my early to mid-twenties) when I was pretty convinced regular sex was one of the only good reasons to be in a relationship. It’s never been a secret and my sex drive has never been an issue.

But that was then.

Don’t get me wrong, I still have a high sex drive. But I also have a toddler, and I work from home. I can’t remember the last time I met a man I was even mildly interested in, which is why I somehow went from being a girl who loved sex to one who’s spent the last four years mostly abstinent.

Even just typing that word makes me sad.

I guess life just got in the way of dating. And most of the time, I’m OK with that fact. Adopting my daughter was the best thing to ever happen to me. I’d rather spend Friday nights with her than out at a bar searching for my next boyfriend.

But the length of my dry spell has been the butt of plenty of jokes among my friends. (Because apparently it’s hilarious to make fun of the girl who no longer remembers what a penis looks like.)

The running joke has been my vagina is going to seal up from lack of use. And maybe something about cobwebs, because my friends are assh*les.

Mostly, I brush these jokes off. Or I join in on them, recognizing that the lack of sex (or even just the lack of chemistry) in my life right now is kind of depressing. If I don’t laugh about it, I might cry.

But that’s all it’s been — a joke. Obviously, all the equipment will still work just fine, sans cobwebs, when I meet a man worth jumping into the sack with. Vaginas don’t actually seal shut, right?

That’s what I’ve been telling myself; that this is just a period of my life where I’m focused on other things; that the time will come when I meet someone I really like and can reconnect with that girl I once was; that I will have sex again someday. At least when the toddler is sleeping.

But then I got hired to write some health articles for a website dedicated to menopause. This wasn’t all that atypical a job for me. I’m kind of a layman expert (if there’s such a thing) on women’s health, being mostly self-taught after years spent battling endometriosis. I ghostwrite for quite a few medical websites on various topics related to the vagina. This was just my first foray into menopause.

So, imagine my surprise when I started research for an article on “Vaginal Atrophy.” Never heard of this term? That’s OK, neither had I. But the gist is that when a woman is going through menopause, the lack of estrogen in her body can cause the vaginal tissues to thin out and the vaginal walls to inflame.

Over time, the muscles will actually atrophy and cease working as they should. Continued sexual activity can reduce the decline, keeping those muscles engaged and active. But if you aren’t having sex when this is going on, sex in the future can become very uncomfortable, at best, and nearly impossible in some cases.

I sat at my computer, slack-jawed, reading story after story of women whose vaginas may not have sealed shut exactly, but became basically non-functional due to lack of activity during these low-estrogen periods. Because, that’s right, this doesn’t just happen during menopause— it can also happen while breastfeeding, or during any other point in your life when your estrogen levels or low.

Did I mention that I have endometriosis, an estrogen-dependent disease that has my doctors continually monitoring my hormone levels and trying to keep my estrogen low? Yeah…

I was having a girls’ night with friends a few days after my research, and I brought the topic up, wondering if they’d ever heard of this condition themselves.

“Oh yeah, vaginal atrophy,” one of my friends said. “I have a friend who’s a lesbian who has it. She can’t even get vaginal exams anymore.”

Apparently the vagina is a “use it or lose it” part of the female anatomy. Which, as a single mom who doesn’t have a whole lot of time (or even desire) to be using it right now, is a pretty horrific discovery to make.

All this time, I’ve been telling myself that when she’s older I’ll start dating again. Or when I get my business to the point where I don’t feel like I have to work every single day. Or when life just slows down a little.

But what if that day comes and my vagina really has sealed shut?

I’m not sure how long it takes for this whole atrophy thing to happen, though. I think I’m still good for now. But why aren’t more women talking about this? Why aren’t we made more aware that this is something that can actually happen?

I’m not sure how it changes anything. I mean, even knowing this information, I’m not feeling all that inclined to just jump the next man who shows interest. But if knowledge is power, consider me the woman who’s now spreading the word.

Vaginas actually can seal shut. This is a thing. So know your body, pay attention to the signs (drying up down there can be your first clue), and see a doctor if you’ve got concerns. Because even if you don’t want to use it today, you might still want to someday.

And while cobwebs probably aren’t a real concern, vaginal atrophy just might be.

Leah Campbell’s article was originally posted on Your Tango.

Indigo Honey Notes:

A preventative measure is to keep the blood flowing to the vulva and vaginal area. Vibrators are an effective (and fun!) way to accomplish this, and use of a vibe at least once a week can help a TON to increase circulation.

These Are the New Orgasm Statistics Every Woman Should See


Are you not having an orgasm every time you have sex? You’re not alone.

Only 57% of women usually have orgasms when they have sex with a partner, according to new data from Cosmopolitan‘s Female Orgasm Survey. Now compare that to their partners, who are apparently orgasming 95% of the time, the women say. Notice how far apart those are?

This recent study, which surveyed more than 2,300 women ages 18 to 40, captures what a lot of women are realizing about their orgasms: There are still clear obstacles standing between women and the pleasure they deserve.

Mechanical issues

Simple as it may sound, many women’s orgasm problems can be chalked up to bad mechanics. Fifty percent of women said their partners were almost there but just couldn’t quite bring them home. Thirty-eight percent of women claimed there wasn’t enough clitoral stimulation, and 35% of women said they weren’t getting the right kind of clitoral stimulation.

These stats are unsurprising when you realize how essential the clitoris is in helping a woman achieve orgasm. While percentages are hard to pin down, experts say most women need to have their clitoris stimulated in order to orgasm; and yet the clit remains a mysterious body part. In a 2005 study of 833 undergraduate students, women and men were just as likely to mislabel the clitoris on a diagram.

Having better knowledge of the parts can indeed help the mechanics. A 2014 study from the Journal of Sexual Medicine found that lesbian women orgasm about 75% of the time during sex with a consistent partner. Notice how high that is? The researchers concluded that homosexual women are more comfortable with their bodies and their partners’, and thus able to achieve orgasm more easily, as reported by Mic‘s Erin Brodwin.

Physically, we can also help things along by relaxing: According to the Cosmo survey, 32% of women are getting caught up in their own head and getting focused on how they look in bed.

Getting the attention we deserve

While 78% of women believed their partners cared about their orgasm, 72% of women still experienced a time when their partner climaxed but made no attempt to help them finish. Ouch.

Leaving a woman high and dry might come from a lack of mechanical understanding, but the orgasm gap also reflects how our cultural views of men’s versus women’s pleasure. After all, it takes much longer on average for a woman to orgasm (up to 20 or even 40 minutes, some experts say), and yet the standard expectation is that sex ends when a man comes.

That’s one reason why, according to Cosmo‘s survey, up to 67% of women have ever faked an orgasm. “It’s partly social; our culture gives more value to behaviors that result in orgasm for men,” Indiana University sex researcher Debby Herbenick told Slate.

It’s important to remember the responsibility for —and entitlement to — pleasure isn’t on one partner, but rather on both. “Chances are, people aren’t communicating in bed about what works for them,” Michelle Ruiz, senior editor at Cosmopolitan, told Mic.

It’s in our hands

So how are women actually achieving orgasm, if they’re not always coming from their partners? Often, it’s on their own. The survey found that 39% of women reach most of their orgasms through use of a hand or sex toy.

“Don’t just expect someone to magically know how to please you,” said Ruiz. “Champion your own orgasm as well! Masturbate and experiment on your own and find out what turns you on, so you can let a partner know. Then, let a partner know.”

With more and more toys and tools for women to achieve orgasm hitting the market, and more conversations opening up about where female pleasure actually comes from, there’s never been a better time to work towards closing the orgasm gap. After all, if the statistics are right, it’s in men’s and women’s hands.


These Are the New Orgasm Statistics Every Woman Should See was originally posted on Mic.


8 Things Every Woman Should Know About Her Libido


Here today, gone tomorrow — your libido can be puzzling, to say the least.

But that ebb and flow is completely natural, says Lauren Streicher, MD, clinical associate professor of obstetrics and gynecology at Northwestern Memorial Hospital in Chicago: “All women go through periods when they feel especially frisky, as well as times when they just seem to have lost their mojo.” Read on to learn about the many reasons your libido may come and go, and how to find it when you miss it. Curious about aphrodisiacs? We’ve got those too, from strawberries to Savasana.

The brain is your biggest sex organ

Your brain is where the spark starts. Five of the most important areas:

Ventral striatum: A 2012 fMRI study found that this area lights up when you see something lust-inducing (like, say, Idris Elba):

  • Amygdala: Some research suggests that your sex drive may be proportional to the size of your amygdala, the almond-shaped emotion center of your brain.
  • Hypothalamus: When you experience something rewarding (such as a great kiss), this part of the brain produces dopamine, a neurotransmitter that’s critical for pleasure and motivation.
  • Cerebral cortex: The brain’s outer layer of gray matter is responsible for higher functions, including thoughts about sex. It triggers a chain reaction that ultimately leads to the production of sex hormones.
  • Pituitary: This gland secretes luteinizing hormone, which stimulates your ovaries to produce estrogen. It also makes the “mothering” hormone prolactin — typically during pregnancy and breastfeeding — which lowers libido.

Desire may increase with age

A 2010 study showed that as a woman’s fertility wanes in her 30s and 40s, her sexual fantasies become more frequent and steamier (!) and her sex drive becomes stronger overall.

Researchers suspect it’s an evolutionary trick, designed to up your odds of procreating by encouraging you to do the deed more often. Life circumstances play a role, too, says Dr. Streicher, who wrote Sex Rx: Hormones, Health, and Your Best Sex Ever. “You’re more comfortable with your partner and less worried about contraception,” she explains.

Of course, there’s also the confidence that comes with age: A large 2015 survey discovered that most women who find sex more pleasurable as they get older credit their improved body image. After all, there’s nothing like feeling sexy to put you in the mood.

The pink pill has perks—and risks

Last year, the FDA approved Addyi, the first-ever Rx sex drug for women. Unlike its male counterpart, Viagra, which works by improving blood flow to the genital region, Addyi is thought to boost desire by altering the balance of neurotransmitters (like serotonin and dopamine) in a woman’s brain.

Alas, the daily pill, approved for premenopausal women, has a range of unsexy possible side effects — including nausea, dizziness, and sleepiness — and alcohol isn’t allowed while you’re on it.

For postmenopausal women, there are other options that may help increase libido, such as the topical cream ON Libido, or the daily wellness supplement Hot Rawks.

Stress kills your sex drive

“Lab research has shown that women experiencing stress, as evidenced by increased cortisol, have less response to erotic cues,” says Sheryl Kingsberg, PhD, chief of the division of behavioral medicine at University Hospitals Case Medical Center in Cleveland.

“Stress is a tremendous distracter,” she explains. “It takes away from your ability to focus and be fully present.” But distraction isn’t the only factor. Tension can take a toll on a relationship, too. It’s not surprising that a Monmouth University study found that couples placed in stressful situations behaved more poorly to each other. “Disdain and anger are definitely not aphrodisiacs,” says Dr. Streicher.

Stress can also prevent you from sleeping enough, leaving you too pooped to get busy. The good news: A 2015 study revealed that just one extra hour of shut-eye a night leads to a 14 percent boost in libido.

Some medications can affect sex drive

Some meds can make your sex drive take a nosedive. If you suspect that any of these drugs are to blame, ask your doctor about switching to an alternative.

  • Birth control pills: They lower levels of active estrogen and testosterone, explains Dr. Streicher. Progestin-only pills and IUDs are just as effective at preventing pregnancy and don’t tamp down libido.
  • SSRIS: These antidepressants are known libido busters, but a different type of drug — bupropion — is less likely to affect sex drive.
  • Blood pressure meds: In a French study, 41 percent of postmenopausal women taking these drugs reported lowered sexual desire. Beta-blockers, often used to treat hypertension, are common culprits. You may want to consider trying valsartan, another type of blood pressure med that has actually been shown to boost libido.
  • Antihistamines: These drugs tend to dry out mucus-producing cells everywhere in the body, including the vagina, says Dr. Streicher. But the side effect is less common with second-generation antihistamines (like Zyrtec and Claritin). There are nondrug allergy treatments as well, such as immunotherapy shots and pills, and of course the use of a personal lubricant always helps.

Yoga can help

Can Downward Dog really up your libido? When researchers had women do an hour of yoga daily, they found that nearly 75 percent were more satisfied with their sex life after 12 weeks.

It makes sense, given the relaxing effects of yoga. “By facilitating deeper breathing and calming the autonomic nervous system, yoga can help direct more blood flow to the pelvic organs,” says Timothy McCall, MD, author of Yoga as Medicine. So we asked yoga teacher Kate Hanley, author of A Year of Daily Calm, for three lust-stimulating poses.

Her top picks: Cobra (it might trigger a surge in testosterone, according to a 2004 study), Extended Side Angle (it stretches out your pelvis), and Savasana (it quiets the chatter in your mind).

If your libido is MIA, see your MD

It’s tempting to dismiss a dwindling sex drive, chalking it up to a hectic month (or year)—but any significant drop that lasts more than a few weeks is worth getting checked out, says Dr. Streicher.“You may have an underlying medical condition,” she explains.

At the top of the list of possibilities: hypothyroidism, which can affect the production of sex hormones, and depression, which interferes with feel-good neurotransmitters. The problem could also be hypertension or even undiagnosed type 2 diabetes.

The fact is, virtually any chronic condition can wreak havoc on your libido, says Dr. Streicher, because “your body has little energy left for anything else.” If you’ve lost your sex drive, see your doc, she urges. The right treatment could get you back on track.

Certain foods can help

Spice things up! Health’s nutritionist, Cynthia Sass, RD, serves up five tasty aphrodisiacs.

  • Berries: Blueberries and strawberries both contain an antioxidant called anthocyanin, which boosts circulation, creating a “natural Viagra effect,” explains Sass. One cup a week can also help prevent high blood pressure, according to 2011 research.
  • Red wine: It’s loaded with polyphenols, which help improve blood flow. Women who enjoy a glass or two of red wine a day report more sexual desire than teetotalers, according to a study done in Italy (naturally).
  • Watermelon: Thank citrulline, a nutrient that sets off a chain reaction to relax blood vessels and increase circulation to all parts of your body, according to research from Texas A&M University.
  • Chickpeas: The humble garbanzo bean is a terrific source of zinc, which has been shown to help regulate testosterone levels in men, says Sass. For a date-night appetizer, serve him a batch of roasted chickpeas or some roasted veggies with hummus.
  • Licorice: A study by the Smell & Taste Treatment and Research Foundation in Chicago found that the scent of Good & Plenty licorice candy, when mixed with the smell of cucumber, triggered a 13 percent increase in vaginal blood flow. Go figure!

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